As described by the lovely @pinkrasputin. I just want to put this up so every ENFP guy can feel good about themselves when they read this and know that they're worth something.
Okay. This is funny that you ask if you are platonic. I've never had a non-sexual relationship with an ENFP male IRL. And no, I'm not a whore. It was only 2 and they were both special people to me. I have found we tend to have instant attraction.
Oh wait. There was this ENfP old man that I met and asked me out on a date and I felt nothing and said "no". So there you go. But he was 22 years my senior.
ENFP men are fuzzy lumps of love. They have so much energy and they are high on life. I love their laughter and their insight.
You guys have a lot of class. It's true. You have a right to judge other's who treat their women like crap. You ruin women. But in a good way. If a woman has ever had the privilege of dating you, she can never go back into expecting anything less. You set a new standard on how women and people should be treated.
You are so open and tolerant of other types and preferences. Seriously, you can't stand close mindedness. You are down to earth and so real. You are so good to your friends. You lift them up and inspire. Even when I've been in my darkest spot and feel like shit, and ENFP man could tell me I was a worthy person and that I will continue to kick ass in my life. ENFP don't judge me for my mistakes. They just dust me off. They give me a soft place to land and then they tell me, "Go. Or I'll kick your ass myself! Knock em dead!"
When other's need support, they can "fall" into you. It feels like they haven't slept for years when they do. Do you realize the type of comfort you provide?
Even a shallow stranger, or a friends with benefit, will be treated with the utmost respect. You make the most out of everything. You want to affect people positively. You work so hard at knowing what a person will need. You hate doing things just "on the surface".
You worry about so and so treating so and so badly. It really affects your own heart. You have incredible empathy.
You hate hurting people, but you get fierce when someone has hurt someone you care about. You are incredibly loyal and fun to be around. You make a person feel welcomed. You also tend to have self deprecating humor. You are humble. Way too humble. And you often date beneath you and function lower than your abilities. This is because you are too humble. You could stand to have a bit more entitlement.
You are incredibly witty and clever. You are fair. You need love. You love being loved. But most importantly, you love to give love.
There is a strength in knowing what you believe in. Even if other's think it is wacky, you know why it's important to you. And you are like a lion protecting your values. You stand firm.
You fight for the underdog. You have a strong distaste for other men who use women. You treat people with respect and you can make anyone laugh when they are down.
You are big kids. You are dreamers. You examine people, and can truly see when someone is "bad". Most people are better for knowing you and grow from knowing you.
You have an inner dark side. There is an inner pain. You rarely share and will only show to those who are very special and trustworthy. You need to go inward at times. This is you being real with yourself. At that time, you are not concerned with others and what you project. You NEED to go inward at times and take care of yourself. This is to recuperate from giving SO much to others.
I could lay around with you and roll on the floor all day. We could watch cartoons, eat grilled cheese sandwiches, and blow on each other's bellies unexpectedly. And then we could all of a sudden get on our high horse and talk about how some stupid law passed and just denied a certain people their rights. Haters. We hate haters.
Haha. ENFP men are cute. So very cute. So squeezable. But there is a hard core.
You are so rare. I don't care about statistics. You guys are RARE and the world is lucky to have you.
I have never met a self-centered male ENFP IRL.