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    INFJ - The Protectors

    Stress coping, ideal mate, learning style, and Quadra of the ENFP

    1. Coping with stress:
    Hyperesthetic types are susceptible to being too sensitive to the environment and can be quite thin-skinned who may make them feel inferior. To resolve this they should learn to detach from emotional involvement more and take things with ‘a pinch of salt’.

    They have a philosophical ethical style that doesn't give people an “inferiority complex” per se although does give them a sense that they are listening to a spiritual leader who is wiser than them which demands respect.

    2. What the ENFp is looking for in an ideal mate:

    Pseudo-Caregivers/Students: ENFp, INFj
    These are types who exhibit paternal/maternal tendencies towards others in their everyday lives and may thus carry over these notions and temperaments into their romantic life. These types habitually attempt to give their partner what he/she "needs" (or what they believe they need). As a result, they may become drained by lack of attendence to their own needs and desires. In a partner, they are searching for a combination of strength and gentleness.

    3. Learning Style
    Objectivist-Democrats also known as utopian learners expect to study and research ethical problems and gain recognition for their ability to offer solutions in order to receive appropriate respect.

    4. Quadra: the elder-hood types

    Members of this small group share a general theme of "protection and assistance". This approximates with ensuring conservation and stability in a resource-consuming world.

    Thomas Edison, an estj-director, who invented the incandescent light-bulb clearly had a concern for human survival through the power of electricity as a new source of energy. Fyodor Dostoevsky, an infj-humanist, explored "human psychology in the troubled political, social and spiritual context of his 19th century Russian society".

    Since this group tends to focus on solving the problems of an apparently unstable world of finite resources they are usually wise conservationists which paired with their "careful-infantile" dualities we can say that golden maturity (i.e. elder-hood) would describe their "age" in regards to pushing out their "wisdom" on human survival, cultural morality and conversationalist philosophies etc.
    ENFPs, INFJs, ESTJs, ISTPs

    Directly quoted from Slide Consulting
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    INFP - The Idealists


    Quote Originally Posted by marzipan01 View Post
    1. Coping with stress:
    Hyperesthetic types are susceptible to being too sensitive to the environment and can be quite thin-skinned who may make them feel inferior. To resolve this they should learn to detach from emotional involvement more and take things with ‘a pinch of salt’.

    They have a philosophical ethical style that doesn't give people an “inferiority complex” per se although does give them a sense that they are listening to a spiritual leader who is wiser than them which demands respect.

    2. What the ENFp is looking for in an ideal mate:

    Pseudo-Caregivers/Students: ENFp, INFj
    These are types who exhibit paternal/maternal tendencies towards others in their everyday lives and may thus carry over these notions and temperaments into their romantic life. These types habitually attempt to give their partner what he/she "needs" (or what they believe they need). As a result, they may become drained by lack of attendence to their own needs and desires. In a partner, they are searching for a combination of strength and gentleness.

    3. Learning Style
    Objectivist-Democrats also known as utopian learners expect to study and research ethical problems and gain recognition for their ability to offer solutions in order to receive appropriate respect.

    4. Quadra: the elder-hood types

    Members of this small group share a general theme of "protection and assistance". This approximates with ensuring conservation and stability in a resource-consuming world.

    Thomas Edison, an estj-director, who invented the incandescent light-bulb clearly had a concern for human survival through the power of electricity as a new source of energy. Fyodor Dostoevsky, an infj-humanist, explored "human psychology in the troubled political, social and spiritual context of his 19th century Russian society".

    Since this group tends to focus on solving the problems of an apparently unstable world of finite resources they are usually wise conservationists which paired with their "careful-infantile" dualities we can say that golden maturity (i.e. elder-hood) would describe their "age" in regards to pushing out their "wisdom" on human survival, cultural morality and conversationalist philosophies etc.
    ENFPs, INFJs, ESTJs, ISTPs

    Directly quoted from Slide Consulting
    i wish i could find something on marriage / depression from relationship ...
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    Quote Originally Posted by run.away.unicorn View Post
    i wish i could find something on marriage / depression from relationship ...
    Depression:
    -from the relationship itself?
    Or,
    -from the relationship ending?

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    ENFP - The Inspirers


    Quote Originally Posted by marzipan01 View Post
    Depression:
    -from the relationship itself?
    Or,
    -from the relationship ending?
    From the relationship itself would be great. I've been trying to figure out what it is that is bumming me about my relationship too. I think i've narrowed it down to just not being able to be myself.

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    INFJ - The Protectors

    Quote Originally Posted by frenchie View Post
    From the relationship itself would be great. I've been trying to figure out what it is that is bumming me about my relationship too. I think i've narrowed it down to just not being able to be myself.
    While I don't have a lot of details on your relationship, I can give you the following details I know about type 2's and ENFPs.
    Type 2's have a need to love and be loved. This combined with being ENFP--receptive to the intuitive understanding of the needs, desires, and emotions of others--makes for heavy investment in an SO, to the point of losing track of one's own identity.
    A healthy type 2 grows into a healthy 4 (individual/identity).

    I suggest checking out this blog that has exercises and helpful advice for healthy/unhealthy cycles of the various motivations.
    The Enneagram Blogspot: Type 2: Love-Seeker
    Check out the last bit: "Palmer's Exercise" for personal growth.

    I hope that helps :)
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    ENFP - The Inspirers


    Quote Originally Posted by marzipan01 View Post
    While I don't have a lot of details on your relationship, I can give you the following details I know about type 2's and ENFPs.
    Type 2's have a need to love and be loved. This combined with being ENFP--receptive to the intuitive understanding of the needs, desires, and emotions of others--makes for heavy investment in an SO, to the point of losing track of one's own identity.
    According to the enneagram, a 4 will disintegrate into a 2 and lose identity if they follow their heart around aimlessly.
    A two will disintegrate into an 8, domineering and possessive.
    However, a healthy 2 grows into a healthy 4 (identity).
    Losing track of yourself in a relationship is easy to do especially if you are an NF type 2.

    I suggest checking out this blog that has exercises and helpful advice for healthy/unhealthy cycles of the various motivations.
    The Enneagram Blogspot: Type 2: Love-Seeker
    Check out the last bit: "Palmer's Exercise" for personal growth.
    I hope that helps :)

    You're knowledge of enneagrams is startling because that's exactly what is happening haha.

    I will read up some more. Thanks!
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    ENFP - The Inspirers


    Quote Originally Posted by frenchie View Post
    From the relationship itself would be great. I've been trying to figure out what it is that is bumming me about my relationship too. I think i've narrowed it down to just not being able to be myself.
    Am I right in thinking you are with an enfj?

    You might find this useful.

    Quasi-Identical relations between psychological ("personality") types
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    ENFP - The Inspirers


    Quote Originally Posted by Eye of the Potato View Post
    Am I right in thinking you are with an enfj?

    You might find this useful.

    Quasi-Identical relations between psychological ("personality") types
    I've already read that page and sadly enough it bums me out that it describes everything in near perfect detail.

    I hate being proven right. Thankfully life is a lesson sometimes.
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    Quote Originally Posted by frenchie View Post
    I've already read that page and sadly enough it bums me out that it describes everything in near perfect detail.

    I hate being proven right. Thankfully life is a lesson sometimes.
    Your SO is your quasi-identical?

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    ENFP - The Inspirers


    Quote Originally Posted by marzipan01 View Post
    Your SO is your quasi-identical?
    Yup I am an enfp and she is an enfj. :/
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