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Love Types: ENFP

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#1 ·
If You Are the ENFP: Social Philosopher

"Love is mysterious, inspiring, and fun."

You Are Someone Who:

*Has a great interest in relationships, ideas, and discovering the meaning of life.
*Is people-affirming.
*Is outgoing.
*Is charismatic.
*Tends to start many things (including relationships) but may not finish them.

If You Are Female, Your Best Matches Are:
ENJFs: Growth Teachers
ENFPs: Social Philosophers

If You are Male, Your Best Matches Are:
ENFP: Social Philosopher
INFP: Idealistic Philosopher
If You Want to Win the Heart of Your Ideal Mate, Do the Following:

For INFPs:
*Keep the conversation warm, personal, and conflict-free.
*Be wary of violating their deeply held values.
*Engage them in conversation and take them on dates that revolve around the
arts, relationships, psychology, and finding the meaning of life.
*Be considerate of their need to spend quiet, intimate time with you.

For ENFJs:
*Avoid making them jealous; when you're with them (especially in the beginning
of the relationship) don't be overly attentive of other attractive people.
*Provide plenty of verbal affection.
*Make sure you are on time for your dates.
*Show respect and support for their strongly held opinions, beliefs,and
preferences.

For ENFPs:
*Join them on fun, romantic dates such as salsa dancing or beach rendezvous
with poetry and wine.
*Stimulate their playful imagination: leave mysterious notes on their doorstep,
dress up like historical characters, or ask them thought-provoking questions
such as "what would we do if we were stranded on a desert island?"
*Invite others to join the fun--ENFPs love to be around other people and will enjoy
your company even more when you create a lively social environment.
*Keep up with their agile conversation as they enthusiastically switch from one
intriguing topic to another.
 
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#77 ·
if only i could know what type people were thou.. :sad:
always end up in relationships with the wrong type, its just fustrating and depressing.. so its just me, myself and i and its working so far :cool: ..............:unsure:
become friends with the person first, then you might be able to type them yourself without having them take a test on it.

I've gotten pretty good at typing
 
#5 ·
ye i think u pinned down the dating an ENFP dos and dont :)

thanks:cool:
 
#6 ·
I have been happily married to an ISTJ for 21 years and have been with him for 27. We complement each other. Where I am weak, he is strong, and vice versa. When I have ENFP needs that he is short on providing, I have my friends to support me. We cannot expect one person to fulfill all of our needs anyway. So if you are not having luck with people like you, look for your opposite and you may just find happiness.
 
#8 ·
I have been happily married to an ISTJ for 21 years and have been with him for 27. We complement each other. Where I am weak, he is strong, and vice versa. When I have ENFP needs that he is short on providing, I have my friends to support me. We cannot expect one person to fulfill all of our needs anyway. So if you are not having luck with people like you, look for your opposite and you may just find happiness.

Are you serious? I always thought ST's were the worst type for ENFP's. Here are all the types and their compatibility :)


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#10 ·
larger number, more compatible apparently.
 
#11 ·
24 = 100 %

2 way compatibility between two types who both send an recieve are the ones in 'normal text'
whereas one way compatibilities are in italic.

ENFP's GO BEST TOGETHER WITH THEMSELVES (24 points) and ENTP's (22 points) and INFP's (23 points).


HAHAHA JUST check out ENFP's compatibility with ESTP's though, it is 1 point.. xD
 
#44 ·
So is that why I've resonated deeply with every ENFP profile I come across on this site? This web-chat is a bit unnerving for me because, rather than typing to my Apple laptop, I long to spend time in person with live humans in order to feel the connection... I'm like the girl in the YouTube video entitled "It's not easy being an ENFP" in the sense that I go deep with people as soon as I meet them. Ok, so thank you for this posting.
 
#12 ·
So ENTP and INTP have a 96% chance/compatibility?
 
#23 ·
My current interest is an INTJ, but bothe T and J are borderline.

These things are just a guideline though, people are still individual, and it will all depend on how strong each of your letters is.... My F and P are really strong... so I don't work with strong T's or J's, and my E is really weak so I like a lot of solitary me time like I's.

It's all well and good to just look at compatibality, but as the ENFP gets older they realise that there is more to life than just having fun. So while it would be a blast to link with my ENFP best friend, we can't spend everyday in a swimming pool in the South of France.. bills need to be paid, rooms need to be cleaned, appointments need to be kept... and left to our own devices, they probably wouldn't get done. Being the wildchild of the MBTI, we need a little reinging in to operate in this world.

That said ENFP-ENFP is fine if one of them is mature enough to do all that TJ type stuff.
 
#18 ·
But the books I have read, and my experience suggest strongly that ENFP_ENFP combo is not an ideal match at all. To chaotic.

I could see ENFP-INFP as the most tranqual-But I would like to mix it up a bit, that could get boring. My whole family are INFPs and it gets too introspective and feeling orientated. ENFPs introvert their feelings , at least I do, and I do not want to live in my feelings all the time, my feeling are intense but they are introverted and I like it that way. I see my feelings as mostly secret yet they feed my intition and thinking which is really cool.

I like INTJs or INFJs most because I like to balance my E, which can run my ragged, and my P, which in extremes leads to chaos. But of course the ENTP are just a blast as friends! But I doubt I would want to hook up with one. What is common in all these types? U tell me.
 
#19 ·
after going out with an istp for 3 years(on and off) i finally gave in and realised we wouldn't work. i don't regret it though and i believe if it hadn't been for me then that boy would never have come to the realisation that he is actually in fact capable of a relationship. i think only an enfp could be capable of teaching an istp to love. he has said that he is thankful to me for showing him this and for showing him that there is hope in the most dire situations. it does kinda hurt to think that i was his practice girlfriend(the wounds are still a bit fresh) but i'll get over it!
 
#20 ·
Question ?



If my thinking is right, I would have thought you and him would be forever moving away from each other in opposite directions. This is what I have as INTP with an ISFP. The NP makes to get close and make the relationship work, but SF is on a roller-coaster of feelings.

Female ISTPs are capable of love very quickly
. As an INTP I felt bashed up by it. But not as badly bashed up as by an ESTJ. Love as a Dictator ST. You will love me or else .... AAArgh !!!
 
#21 ·
yes we were at logger heads alot! i'd like to meet another enfp or an infj. i feel after all the st's i've dated i NEED an nf. i don't think it would ever get boring because we could both have a laugh without having to worry about the other person not getting it. having someone u can mess around with never gets boring.
 
#22 ·
Well, this is an interesting thread. I am married to an ISTJ, and am miserable. The relationship is over. But neither one of us want to call it quits. We really have nothing in common, he is way to boring and set in his ways for me, plus is lacking any kind of passion in any area of his life.. and I am too "scatter brained" for him, he can't keep up. We have been to counseling but just can't get it together. It's just so frustrating.
 
#24 ·
I'm really sorry to hear. :crying: My S is farily strong and my F and P are very stong, so I have problems with strong ST's. Somehow, one of my best friends since I was 11 is an ESTJ (actually 2 are) and I've just started realise that I really can't stand the way she operates and how she's so rational about everything. And I realise with ESTJ's that we're great once we're not around one another too often. lol!
 
#29 · (Edited)
The trick with female ENFPs is try and get approval for the match with her men friends in her social scene. These will be SJs so NPs have little or no chance.

However, I have observed a successful relationship between a ENFP (who left the INFJ for dust) and a rich INTP. It was not highly successful because the rich men spend a lot of time earning their crust and he was veering on INTJ by my P standards.

ISFP females hate the ENFP and will do her harm. ISFP females may be partnered to an ENTJ who will murder just about anybody, or even worse may bury them alive.

If the Perseus allocations are correct the FP is a Disciple to her Ideals. This makes her vulnerable to contrary idealism or just plain selfish needs of anOther.
 
#30 ·
I'm really glad I stumbled upon this site. As I am reading more comments from everyone, not just others that are my type, and getting perspective on things. I'm fairly high E, VERY strong N, weak f, and strong P. To me these letters give a guideline for who I am, but I also take into consideration my upbringing, values, and what not. And am able to put myself in "other people's shoes" and pay my own bills... IF I remember to look at my calendar... :tongue: without finding a cute pair of shoes first haha!!
 
#31 ·
This is me too. I have every intention o fpaying my bills, but I don't LOOK for them. So if I pick up the bill and put it on the table, then I may never remember it ... This happens with my cellphone every other month... For me, my weakness is travel. If I find a cheap flight, I book it, and worry about everything else afterwards.
 
#32 ·
Travel especially with my children is my one true love too. As for men, I'm not sure I could be so mean to them anymore, I been mean to so many, but I don't mean to be,...I think the enfp trick is, if it's not strong enough, IE, if your not madly in love then you may as well say it's as good as over...
 
#34 ·
I have been thinking, if I am constantly on a quest for self actualization, and am looking and analyzing others all the time... does this drive them insane? I mean, who seriously puts as much thought into who a person is than I do. I want to know what makes people tick right off the bat. But does there come a time when you just feel like you are sharing too much?
 
#35 ·
Affection causes Change



My problem is I can't get past the Guards SJ who hate my NP bit.

I go for personal growth for myself and do not expect others to change, so I just have to recognise their type.

The trouble is the Guards SJ have all the money and I have not got any.
The Guards are also violent and dangerous and fraudulent. And they hate me so they will not let me have any money or a job!
 
#42 ·
I had my heart broken by an ENFP. It would have been a match made in heaven (I'm ENFJ). For some reason (never revealed to me) she wasn't interested. Things just kind of ended with no explanation. I was left hanging for years... I stuck around waiting to see if she would ever show interest again. She ended up just veiwing me as a brother... meh. I don't bother to even talk to her anymore, but the near the end of the friendship I began to notice that she is extremely manipulative with men.
 
#43 · (Edited)
Caprice




I have had the same sort of thing, not really worried about it now, just want to keep out of trouble.
Intuitives are harder to relate to than the simple-minded Sensors. With Intuits you have occupy the same planet, have the same ideals. Political differences can cause problems.

While ENFPs are brilliantly perceptive, they can make serious mistakes in judgment, which works to their discomfort. These mistakes derive from their tendency to focus on data which confirm their own biases. They may be absolutely correct in their perceptions but wrong in their conclusions.
NP'S -- THE INTUITIVE PERCEIVING-MODE TYPES

Ferret (nice) can turn Cat Weasel (manipulative). It is the influence of the female Cats (ISFP) and male Wolves (ENTJ).
It can make the ENFP be confused about their sense of identity. Not helped by Guards (SJ) opposite of Questors (NP).

On the Perseus system the Healer INFP is called the Bird of Paradise.
 
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