What i'm about to describe is something from my personal experience, it may not apply to you or to any ENFP.
I found that using our Ne primary function is the major turn-off for people especially Is.
Our Extraverted iNtuition or Ne function is responsible for inferring relationships, noticing threads of meaning, and scanning for what could be. It presents itself when the first thing we open our mouth to say is "yes, that is exactly like when...." which i found out is perceived by people as "only thinking about yourself", "self centered", "this has nothing to do with u now" and the famous "would u shut up and listen to me n stop thinking about yourself for a minute!"
When a friend comes to us to tell us a problem, our first reaction is to tie the knots, try to dig in and see if we have been presented with this sort of thing before. Being an E means at the first memory we will jump up and try to tell. What we expect is the friend to understand the meaning, the link, as we did, then proceed with their story. After they have completed their story we tie together all different stories and memories, then use our Fi on them.
Fi or Introverted Feelings is defined as *evaluating importance and maintaining congruence. It is often hard to put words to the values used to make introverted Feeling judgments since they are often associated with images and feeling-tones more than words. As a cognitive process, it often serves as a filter for information that matches what is valued and wanted.* After Fi has been emplyed, Te is used as well to think.
Then we form an opinion or advice or solution. In some cases this works out really fine. In others, well, it doesnt go as planned.
At the 2nd interruption the speaker receives from the ENFP, they will go ballistic about *not interrupting* and might even stop talking altogether or start a fight about the ENFP interrupting with their stories.
What the ENFP needs when they say their little snippets of the past is someone to say *exactly* or *ye thats how i think went* and immediately proceed. Acknowledge the link, then move on.
What the speaker needs to know is that ENFP talking about *yes thats like when.....* means they are relating to u, understanding u and is like weaving themes and "threads" together. We don't know the weave until a thought thread appears or is drawn out in the interaction with a previous one. Thus there is often an emergent quality to using this process. A strategy or concept emerges based on the here-and-now interactions, not appearing as a whole beforehand.
ADVICE to make encounters like this more smooth:
for ENFP: try exercising keeping those snippets to yourself on a temperary memory that is easy to access when it's your turn of the conversation. Employ the thinking process, the relating process inwards with Introverted types. When it's ur turn to talk, talk solutions and conclusions, if the listener isnt convinced u can then ask them if they need to hear a story as to where ur getting ur great hunch about this.
for person talking to ENFP: keep in mind that the ENFP is only trying to help you, and this process of relating events is what makes the ENFP the amazing problem solver who sees solutions that couldnt be present without such diversity of thought.
I hope anyone related to this
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