What you really need to do is understand and relate to the following:
Introverted Sensing: Reviewing past experiences; “what is” evoking “what was”; seeking detailed information and links to what is known; recalling stored impressions; accumulating data; recognizing the way things have always been. Remembering the last time you wore a particular item or the last time you were at a similar event—maybe even remembering how you felt then.Also, spend some time reading the ENFJ Ni thread, as well as the Tertiary Se thread and tell us how you relate.Introverted iNtuiting: Foreseeing implications and likely effects without external data; realizing “what will be”; conceptualizing new ways of seeing things; envisioning transformations; getting an image of profound meaning or far-reaching symbols. Envisioning yourself in an outfit or maybe envisioning yourself being a certain way.
ENFJ's, how do you use your Ni?
My interpretation of Si is that it works on the basis of what's right there, accessible, relatively familiar and almost linear. An Si user is great at learning new things if they're open to it, but they need exposure to things in order to assimilate and then extrapolate. Ni users seem kinda "jumpy" and "sporadic" to Si users because even though all the information is there, the relations made and explained aren't typically linear but more so related. Even though a lot of people scoff at the notion of the "Aha!" moment when it comes to Ni ... it's largely based on personal experience and it's not readily seen. "Aha!" moments are rare --- but when they come, they unlock the mind to an immediate realization of how things are going to be, why they had happened as well as how they will shape up.
This is why ENFJ's are able to mentor because we just know what it would take for another person to grow because of a combination of being in tune with their feelings as well how to "shape" them without direct interference. It's where being chameleonic comes in .. it's where having premonitions about society as a whole come in - especially with regards to people's needs.
And good luck with your type :)
PS. I'm sorry there aren't enough resources on ESFJs on PerC. And what "resources" are there --- are just ... a shitload of negative stereotypes ... As an ESFJ .. don't let your head get wrapped up in the negatives in MBTI ... they clearly did not pay enough attention .. maybe they got bored by the time they got to ESFJ's and just decided to wing it ;) :P