[LuxEterna]

My boyfriend is ENFJ and he's very giving.

I find myself having to help him protect his boundaries.

When he was sick, I had to be the one to say, "ok, i'll leave now, so that you can rest peacefully." cos he felt it was rude to ask me to leave, but he clearly prefered to be alone.

Occassionally, I would find reasons to give him a treat, cos i think it's not good that he's the one who offers to pay all the time.

I know that ENFJ's like to feel needed.

But i'm afraid that he'll OVERGIVE.

I do love his generosity, and I look for ways to show my appreciation to him, cos he clearly deserves all the appreciation possible.



But How can i continue to help him protect his boundaries ?

// My dad is an ENFJ, & my mom takes advantage of him to the extreme. Funny that i have fallen in love with an ENFJ too. But i am trying not to follow in my mom's footsteps //

[penguinfrk]

I'm head over heels in love with an ISFP. I do little things for her, but I'm not sure if she genuinely enjoys it or if she wants to enjoy it because she knows I feel good when I give. It's an interesting dilemma.

I think the best way to let him know is to just tell him bluntly, but not harshly: "Don't be afraid to say ask me to leave" or something. Even if he doesn't act on it immediately, it'll plant a small seed that he will recall if he ever feels unsure or timid.

[LuxEterna]

I'm head over heels in love with an ISFP. I do little things for her, but I'm not sure if she genuinely enjoys it or if she wants to enjoy it because she knows I feel good when I give. It's an interesting dilemma.

I think the best way to let him know is to just tell him bluntly, but not harshly: "Don't be afraid to say ask me to leave" or something. Even if he doesn't act on it immediately, it'll plant a small seed that he will recall if he ever feels unsure or timid.

Hohoho.. if you can see it, that means he probably can see it too that I put effort into appreciating him and he may also be wondering if i truly like his giving....

and yeah, he does put in effort to speak up his needs. I am glad he tries.

Can you tell me more about yoru relationship with your ISFP? What is it like? and how long have you both dated?