[renna]

So basically in December 2010, my ENFJ 15 year old sister moved in with me and my husband. As of last week, I now I have guardianship of her. I haven't lived with my sister since I was 13 years old and she was just kindergartener. I'm having to relearn my sister again because she's a teenager now and she's a different person.

My questions to you ENFJ's out there is this: Did you tend to be an emotional teenager? Did you get upset or offended easily?



I'm noticing this behavior in her and sometimes its like walking on egg shells. She is a girl, so I know hormones have a key in this but I don't ever remember being this emotional. Plus, she's in a rough situation but I went through the same thing at her age too and I just don't remember having so many ups and downs. On her good days, she is such a fantastic kid. She wants to please everyone, super responsible and has such a great sense of humor.

Anything would be helpful!! :)

[Roland]

Hahaha Oh my. My sister is ENFJ, borderline ESFJ and she's just turned 12. We're always yapping at each other, its wonderful. No but really, her emotions are all over the place sometimes - like you said, like walking on eggshells, she can freak out over the slightest things. Although we argue a lot and whatever (sibling rivalry), I make sure she knows I'm just playing with her and that its all in good intentions and laugh things off. Hugs, play fighting and whatnot are necessary, otherwise I think she might turn cold like my ESFJ mother.

Don't know what to suggest but that is my exp with such a creature.

[Nighty88]

I have met a lot of INFJ's that are overconfident about there judgement and hold on to this so much that they mis the other perspective on things. I think these subtypes of INFJ's I dislike the most of all NF's. So I like the INFJ who tries to understand my point of view (by listening!! and shaping your opinion with asking me things) and from there helps me with questions and let me find out by myself (very important as ENFJ learn by 'doing' themselves; do not ever say what I need to do when I do not ask for it; but just say your opinion once when you see an bad situation in the furture for me). Those are the great INFJ's in my teenager carreer that helped me a lot.

I hope my perspective helps you :)

[SnnyYellow]

Well, I'm currently an ENFJ teenage girl and I've had other ENFJ friends so I'm assuming my opinion should help? Umm, first off she's probably sensitive, more sensitive than you realize because at times she'll show her feelings other times she'll keep them in. Yhis may be regarding her beliefs or simply she may be a person who hates criticism. Next, she's probably SUPER people oriented, so she can be influenced by the emotions of others, remember this, I think it's important. Also, she'll like harmony so be careful of having conflict situations around her. She, like most girls my age, can be a whirlwind of emotions so I guess don' t be alarmed if she doesn't get her feelings! Though, I'm sure that if you can help her sort them out, she'd really appreciate it. And lastly, she probably wishes to talk about things when she's having a rough time and like ENFJs of all ages NEEDS affection. :) Oh, and she'd probably loved it if you opened yourself up to her. So, in summation, just be sensitive to her emotions, be perceptive enough to understand when she's down, and just really dhow her you care through your words and actions. By trying to figure her out and talking, she would know you are being sensitive towards her! :)

[renna]

Well, I'm currently an ENFJ teenage girl and I've had other ENFJ friends so I'm assuming my opinion should help? Umm, first off she's probably sensitive, more sensitive than you realize because at times she'll show her feelings other times she'll keep them in. Yhis may be regarding her beliefs or simply she may be a person who hates criticism. Next, she's probably SUPER people oriented, so she can be influenced by the emotions of others, remember this, I think it's important. Also, she'll like harmony so be careful of having conflict situations around her. She, like most girls my age, can be a whirlwind of emotions so I guess don' t be alarmed if she doesn't get her feelings! Though, I'm sure that if you can help her sort them out, she'd really appreciate it. And lastly, she probably wishes to talk about things when she's having a rough time and like ENFJs of all ages NEEDS affection. :) Oh, and she'd probably loved it if you opened yourself up to her. So, in summation, just be sensitive to her emotions, be perceptive enough to understand when she's down, and just really dhow her you care through your words and actions. By trying to figure her out and talking, she would know you are being sensitive towards her! :)

That is super helpful! Thank you soo much :-) I just love you ENFJ's though, I think you all are awesome and I'm honored to have her as my sister :)

[Darius]

I'm a teenage ENFJ! Sure, I'm a guy, but still.
We are definitely very sensitive and emotional. We are very trusting as well, and forgiving to a decent point. People are our specialty, they're what we need. I think that you just need to give her the chance to figure you out. You've definitely earned her trust by being there for her. Now just keep in mind that we NEED to feel included, and set aside time here and there to get to know each other. If you have photo albums, that would be perfect (unless there are painful memories). Keep her engaged, and you two should click right away. You should have no problem, being an INFJ. You'll know just what to do, I can tell you care a lot about your sister. As long as she knows, she'll be beyond happy :)