Hope you don't mind an INTJ popping into your subgroup but I was wondering how I could recognize an ENFJ if I saw one.
For example, at a party, you would find me (INTJ) standing by the food mumbling something about how my girl robot could make better Hors d'oeuvre.
Would you the one that planned the event and now sits back and bask in the glow?
Would I find you telling a funny story surrounded by strangers who think your very entertaining?
Are you the silly one with a lamp on your head?
Or maybe you are the one flirting with someone else's SO?
As you can see I really have no idea how to find you.