Okay, I don't want to sound conceited, but to anyone out there, do you find members of the opposite (or same) sex are generally REALLY attracted to you? Like, you become friends and then two months later, you have them confessing that they really like you?
I'm having that issue, and it wouldn't be an issue, of course, if I were single. However, I've been dating an ISTJ for over 2 years and I'm not on the market. It has been causing a lot of stress in our relationship because I have more male friends than female in the first place, and then their constant confessions of adoration place me in an awkward position.
I've tried a couple ways of handling it and none have gone well:
1) If I don't say anything, then if he finds out later, he accuses me of trying to deceive him.
2) If I do tell him, then he wants me to instantly cut off ties with the person, which I don't think is fair if they aren't actively pursuing me. We have had situations where one guy was going to try to get my boyfriend drunk and frame him so that it would look like he was cheating so that I'd be single. Drastic, but that is what we dealt with at one point.
3) Stop hanging out with guy friends. I tried this at one point; didn't work too well because I don't think that all male friends, or even ones who like me but maintain appropriate boundaries should be punished because I few people have tried to be inappropriate.
He also is wary of me, but it is primarily for my sense of humor, which happens to be fairly raunchy. He likes it when I joke with him, but I think he thinks that my jokes are a part of the problem.
I'm not quite sure what to do with this situation. Any advice?
Thanks in advance :)