[Kalifornia310]

I really dont know what my problem is. but i cant seem to keep a job, of course its not for any ill reason that I move on. I have never gotten fired, i have never been laid off, it has always been me that quits.

my Routine:

I start at a company, it can be any type of job, ive worked in a variety of different fields searching for the one that fits, i have liked alot of my jobs, and im sure any sane person would still be there. but not me....



so i usually aim low when applying for a job, it usually is the entry level position, well usually within a year, i get promoted, i love promotions, im assuming this is why i have the routine that i have.

well once promoted, if im at the highest level that i can be at, i usually get bored, or un-appreciated, and I quit.

then ill repeat the routine, pick a different field, try my luck, work from the bottom, get promoted, get stuck, quit. and now i quit my current job, with no clue or plan on what to do.

I read somewhere that ENFJs tend to have this problem, and usually make rash decisions when it comes to work. am I a victim on this?! fml.

so now im looking for another job, yay me....

any other ENFJs deal with this?! if so how do you cope? or do you accept your routine. im actually hoping that im not the only one who does this... ::crosses fingers::

[LadyAnime]

well once promoted, if im at the highest level that i can be at, i usually get bored, or un-appreciated, and I quit.

right there. me too. its the same. thing. always. your not being challenged. i read that we need to be challenged in order to keep our interest ^^; but it cant just be mental or physical challenge it needs to be something that changes once in a while or i get bored with it or frustrated... so far on average a year to two years is the longest i can stay put at one job....
now....because of that...my brain is determined to have a baby ^^;;;; something challenging right? just not sure if now is the best time.....>.< but i want one so BAD its because my brain wants me to do something different....

in jobs like this one ( retail ) if i dont come across something new once in a while....i feel like im dying...of boredom...
solution: find something you get excited about doing, some job that you wouldnt mind doing forever ( i want to be a psychologist <3 ) and either start learning more about it or do et
temp solution: find something you havent done before or maybe a new hobby to keep your head busy

hope it helps, although i tend to be of little help other than offering up personal experience stories =P

[walkawaysun09]

I stick to things...even if I hate doing it...I did the same thing with Animation. I hated and loathed doing it, but I kept at it, until something forced me to quit. As far as jobs, I've rarely quit, even if I get stuck...because I feel there is nothing else out there, so I just do it.

Perhaps it's my hyper J tolerance for putting up with bs...even if I get angry about it. It's why I try to pick something I won't be too bored at...something that "varies itself" like the teaching thing I'm going into. Something where very semester I change the class schedule, students, and maybe even altering a little. But yeah...I don't have a problem with quitting...I rarely do...

[Lady Lullaby]

I definitely have a more sporadic job record than say my INTJ hubby. The longest job I ever had was 3 years and I changed departments during that time. My hubby has been at his job for 10+ years. . .

It is partly because of boredom, partly because of personality conflicts that drain me, and partly because I want 'purpose' and 'meaning' in my work and don't always get it from my job. But I've recently decided that if I can fill up the gaps in life with purpose and meaning and good relationships than I can just focus on doing a job that uses my strengths. Have you ever heard of Marcus Buckingham? Take his Strengths Test - it told me my best role is a teacher and then supportive role is an advisor. I really appreciated his quick video series.

Good forum question - nice to know it might be a personality thing huh!

[leesh]

What's interesting is that I was always the teacher growing up. Playing school, I was the teacher to older kids. In high school, I was Spanish Club president and weekly Spanish teacher to kindergarteners. I went off to MIT for architecture and quit after a year to go to school closer to home and study... you guessed it: Education.

Unfortunately, the job market was shot when I graduated, but I'm definitely at my best when I'm able to express my thoughts and feelings in a manner where it is productive.

I always thought I would enjoy Creative Advertisement. PR. Especially in a market involving children. Something with a silly streak.

And I agree this is a good discussion topic. It provides comfort knowing I'm not the only person with this problem.

[thehigher]

What challenges you in a work place?

[leesh]

Cool test, lullaby. :D What were your results, if you don't mind me asking.

"Pioneer--

You are, by nature, an explorer, excited by things you haven’t seen before, people you haven’t yet met. Whereas others are intimidated by the unfamiliar, you are intrigued by it.
Your best quality:
Your willingness to risk
Always:
Seek out situations where things become obsolete very quickly
Be careful you:
Don’t move on so quickly that you gain a reputation as a dilettante
Your smartest career move:
Any job where you’re paid to build something out of nothing"

[Lady Lullaby]

Thanks leesh, I liked it too

My results were: Teacher as lead role and Advisor as supporting role

Your best quality: (as a teacher)
Your faith in the others’ potential
Be careful you:
Don’t come to believe that everyone is capable of everything
Your smartest career move:
Any job where you’re paid to facilitate the success of others.


Your best quality: (as an advisor)
Your ability to find a solution
Be careful you:
Don’t get frustrated by other people’s failings
Your smartest career move:
Any job where you’re paid to be opinionated


Anyone have a job like these? lol - - I'm still looking

[leesh]

Looking as well-- we'll have good news for everyone before long. I have faith.

[The Proof]

it seems to me you lack a sense of purpose, that's what you should be focusing on

look at your self talk, anyone who says stuff like "fml" is likely having some sort of unresolved conflict, probably an internal one

it's not a matter of looking to fix the symptoms of the problem (like sticking to one job, regardless if you hate it or not), it's a matter of finding the job/field you actually want to work in, which is a consequence of finding your purpose

you will not find your purpose externally, nobody will tell it to you, but it is inside you somewhere

try stephen covey's book "the 7 habits of effective people" or something like that, it's a lot deeper than most self-help books, it talks a lot about purpose

once you have your deep purpose, everything else falls into place