[Abbysaurus]

I love this thread! I haven't read through all of it so I don't know if this is a repeat:



When a friend hurts you and, rather than thinking badly of a friend, you look to yourself and see what you've done wrong that could be fixed.

[IluvHSJ]

I love this thread! I haven't read through all of it so I don't know if this is a repeat:

When a friend hurts you and, rather than thinking badly of a friend, you look to yourself and see what you've done wrong that could be fixed.

Yeah, I do this a lot, but I don't want to do that anymore. I feel like it is unfair to myself, when it really WAS other people's fault.

[IluvHSJ]

when you tell your friends that your label is a "giver" and they more readily accept that label than you do.

[FatSpacePenguins]

You form an emotional attachment to Siri.

[Nobleheart]

I'm supposed to be an 'ENTP' but I've tested as ENFJ on several occasions and can relate a lot to what's been said here. :)

Its worrying how easily I can shift between the two. :P I believe (from what I've read) this might be due to environmental factors on the p/j front and a pretty well developed Fe but still...I can relate!

This sounds exactly like something my ENTP friend would say, right down to the tempo and choices of words.

[The_Third_Kira]

you know you are an ENFJ when:

1) You have to change the channel during terrible American Idol auditions because you feel so bad for them
2) You feel almost paranoid that everyone has a secret agenda
3) You sometimes feel as though you have bipolar tendencies (never feel just content)
4) like (3), you feel that your happiness is happier than everyone else, and that your sadness is sadder than everyone else.
5) you smother people with happiness, and don't realize that it can come off too strong sometimes
6) personal criticism hurts because you feel as though you have such good intentions. You can't understand why anybody would not like you because you try so hard to make everybody happy.
7) you like the challenge of figuring somebody's personality out
8) you feel as though you bring out the best in seemingly hard-to-understand people
9) you shy away from people/feel uncomfortable when people really like you/want to be close to you. On this note, I usually feel that I am the one who always smothers other people, and have no idea how to react when somebody does it to me.
10) You love to lead people, especially when teaching is involved..

there is a million more but i'm going to limit myself for now. I love this thread! lol

[Nobleheart]

...when you get +2 CHA, and +2 on Diplomacy, Bluff, and Insight.

[triplespresso]

you know you are an enfj when:

1) you have to change the channel during terrible american idol auditions because you feel so bad for them
2) you feel almost paranoid that everyone has a secret agenda
3) you sometimes feel as though you have bipolar tendencies (never feel just content)
4) like (3), you feel that your happiness is happier than everyone else, and that your sadness is sadder than everyone else.
5) you smother people with happiness, and don't realize that it can come off too strong sometimes
6) personal criticism hurts because you feel as though you have such good intentions. You can't understand why anybody would not like you because you try so hard to make everybody happy.
7) you like the challenge of figuring somebody's personality out
8) you feel as though you bring out the best in seemingly hard-to-understand people
9) you shy away from people/feel uncomfortable when people really like you/want to be close to you. On this note, i usually feel that i am the one who always smothers other people, and have no idea how to react when somebody does it to me.
10) you love to lead people, especially when teaching is involved..

There is a million more but i'm going to limit myself for now. I love this thread! Lol

dead on! Wow!

[The_Third_Kira]

dead on! Wow!

It's such a relief to know others think the same way as me. discovering that I was an ENFJ was such an eye opening thing for me. On that note, you know you are an ENFJ when:

11) You feel that you absolutely must be crazy based on other people's reactions to your way of thinking.

That is, of course, until you discover such wonderful forums like this! I'm not alone! lol

[triplespresso]

It's such a relief to know others think the same way as me. discovering that I was an ENFJ was such an eye opening thing for me. On that note, you know you are an ENFJ when:

11) You feel that you absolutely must be crazy based on other people's reactions to your way of thinking.

That is, of course, until you discover such wonderful forums like this! I'm not alone! lol

Absolutely! Funny, I read your list to my husband and he was convinced that I wrote it. I kept saying, "no I swear it wasn't me!" hahahaha. Yes, I have found 3 women in real life who are enfj's and it has been really comforting to all of us to realize that we are not alone, and even more importantly that we understand each other. We are so often misunderstood. Although in all fairness many of the types are but since we really crave understanding and are sensitive to rejection the misunderstandings hurt more.

So, welcome! I just started participating in this forum. I feel pretty safe.... as long as I avoid the other type forums; as there can be some Enfj bashing on those. Like I said in a different thread: Type can be used for good or evil. Fortunately enfj's typically use it for good. :)