[kiwigrl]

You have posted many things in this thread that have made me think I might be an ENFJ, but this is definitely one of the most compelling. I do this all the time, and then I feel bad for doing it. None of my other INFJ friends seem to be as openly pervy, nor prone to joking about it. Granted, they'll laugh their asses off when I do it, but they rarely make these sorts of jokes.

You are a flipping ENFJ as far as I'm concerned.

Come to think of it, I'm always making raunchy jokes. I love it when people laugh.

Yay, another thing I do all the time. I'm not on my own here lol.

And since it wouldn't be a Nobleheart post without a technical explanation... I've read in several places that this sort of behavior is a manifestation of tertiary Se. I've certainly seen my ENTJ and ENFJ friends manifest it. The ENTJs seldom feel bad about it afterward, hehe.

lol, true. I like your technical explanations. I am yet to identify an ENTJ offline, but hey I don't always feel bad about having a perve lol.

[Nobleheart]

You are a flipping ENFJ as far as I'm concerned.

"flipping" as an adjective implying emphasis
or
"flipping" as an ENFJ that is constantly going back and forth?

Yay, another thing I do all the time. I'm not on my own here lol.

You are certainly not.

lol, true. I like your technical explanations. I am yet to identify an ENTJ offline, but hey I don't always feel bad about having a perve lol.

They are difficult to find outside of 'important' things like office jobs, courtrooms, and the like. I only have a few of them in my life, and it's because I knew them growing up, or worked with them.

[Praxis]

Beautiful. Big smile.

[Abi Juganaru]

You know your an ENFJ when...
1, you care for certain people whom others mistreat or misunderstand
2, you feel as though you understand someone you may not know personally, and somehow they know about your presence here on earth
3, people love your attention and/or love seeing you
4, you don't always want to be around people because you need time to discuss with your inner person and think
5, you feel misunderstood.
That's it for now...

[MissxRae]

You know your an ENFJ when...
1, you care for certain people whom others mistreat or misunderstand
2, you feel as though you understand someone you may not know personally, and somehow they know about your presence here on earth
3, people love your attention and/or love seeing you
4, you don't always want to be around people because you need time to discuss with your inner person and think
5, you feel misunderstood.
That's it for now...

Creepy how I fit this description as well. Thank you for posting that :)

[Razvan]

The question is... if we spend all this time loving everyone and the world, who loves us?

I know that's not the point of this thread, but it's something I've been wondering about.

I've just come off a bad break-up and am feeling a bit heart broken about another old ex, but sometimes I get tired of having to love everything, of having to always wear the happy face.

Maybe that's how you know you're an ENFJ? You spend so much time being happy and making sure everyone else is happy that you're actually capable of feeling tired of it, and then ALSO capable of feeling guilty for being sad, as if that means something's wrong with you...

Who loves you? Well, all those people you show love to, they show you love back, in their own way. Now I know not all of them do that, but some of them will and that's basically the only way I know of to see if a person is worth your love or not. The way I see it, after you meet these kind of people, you can focus more on them and less on the rest of the world. (like family, close friends etc) People who are worth it will not let you down, at least not normally (everybody has bad moods). This kind of people also know how and when to cheer you up, they may not always succeed, but they will definitely try to, in their own way, using their own "language". Oh and you should not always wear the happy face, if you're not happy, don't be afraid to let it show, otherwise how would people know that and be able to be there for you?

You know your an ENFJ when...
1, you care for certain people whom others mistreat or misunderstand
2, you feel as though you understand someone you may not know personally, and somehow they know about your presence here on earth
3, people love your attention and/or love seeing you
4, you don't always want to be around people because you need time to discuss with your inner person and think
5, you feel misunderstood.
That's it for now...

6. You have some romanian roots? You're name definitely has a romanian resemblance.

[beqiblaqheart]

I love this thread! I'd like to add some:

1. You can't watch the news. Can't hear the news. Because you know how those people feel. Because you are so empathic that you literally feel the feelings of others, with all the accompanying pain and anguish.
2. When you pass a car accident on the highway, you are the only person who doesn't rubberneck. Because you don't want to see, and you hope beyond hope that no one is hurt.
3. If you think too hard about someone you love dying, you'll start crying like it's already happened.
4. When your loved ones are out of your sight, you worry that something will happen to them.
5. If you are around someone having an intense emotion, even if you're not involved, you will feel it yourself. Sometimes you have to self-enforce boundaries between your brain and others' because it isn't naturally there for you.
6. People tell you you're clairvoyant.
7. Unlike a lot of people, you can feel very intense highs and lows and be psychologically okay. In fact, you're not really sure how a normal life exists without them.
8. To you, the easiest way through something bad is straight into it. Some might call you masochistic for it, but you're more likely to actually learn something from the mishaps in your life as a result.
9. You feel guilty for things you haven't done.
10. You could sell ice to an eskimo.
11. You are frequently overwhelmed by your responsibilities, but you can't help piling them on. Frequently the last person you take care of is yourself, and you feel guilty when you do.
12. Your kids know they are loved, albeit a trifle clingingly.
13. The best way for someone to know if you truly feel close to them is if they've seen you angry or hurt or embarrassed or negative. You are extremely friendly, but you guard your 'bad' side religiously. Very, very few people will ever see this.
14. While you can be maipulative yourself, it is surprisingly easy to manipulate you, because you're led by your emotions. Generally, this will abate somewhat as you get older and wiser.
15. You tend to look younger than you are; an internal optimism softens you somewhat.
16. If you don't like someone, you tend to just ignore them unless you are forced to deal with them. Even then, you will usually be polite, because you despise conflict. Also, you refuse to give someone you see as a lesser being the satisfaction of pushing your buttons. You have a touch of haughtiness to you, but it's mostly a defense mechanism.
17. If someone does manage to push your buttons and cause you to be confrontational, watch out! You have a very easy way of finding people's emotional weaknesses and making them hurt for a long time.
18. Mostly, though, you approach revenge by moving on and becoming dispassionate about the people who've hurt you. After all;, the true opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference. And for those you've left behind, it can be mighty painful to realize that you have truly and fully abandoned them.

[beqiblaqheart]

Maybe that's how you know you're an ENFJ? You spend so much time being happy and making sure everyone else is happy that you're actually capable of feeling tired of it, and then ALSO capable of feeling guilty for being sad, as if that means something's wrong with you...

Oh, absolutely. And if you can't figure something out to your satisfaction immediately, you will obsess about it for weeks.

[Blackened Marxist]

When you call home constantly making sure if everyone has eaten bathed and aren't bored.

When your constantly trying to get your NT son to feel something.

When you can survive anything, I honestly never seen a type with more perseverance and will-power than you guys.

You are the most hard-working person.

When you are either a doctor, psychologist, nurse, assistant, teacher, etc.
You can't imagine being something like a lawyer.

When you like to take pictures of yourself, this phenomena I dont understand.

[Blackened Marxist]

When you completely suck at revenge, seriously how can someone be so forgiving?