I realize that I have a flawed way of dealing with the interrogating questions and problems that come with fighting with certain people in my life. Significant others, my mom, my sister, some of my friends...the people I truly do care about.
What I mean by this is, when I get into the point of where I realize that there is a "fight brewing", it begins to feel like I'm cornered, and I can't say anything "right" if I'm dealing with someone who is as emotional as I am. I back into a corner and just randomly say things to answer questions, trying to get them to change the subject until the fight is over. Things came to a head last night for a while with someone very close to me, and i felt terrible for reverting into my instinctual nature without thinking about what I was saying, just trying to give yes/no answers and minimal explanations and not knowing what I was really saying as well as beating myself up on the inside for not being able to say what I wanted to really say when I was feeling emotionally upset and like i was being attacked.
Do any other ENFJ's, or NF's in general do this? Do you back into a corner and "internally cry" when fights happen, just trying to get through whatever questions until it's over, not always realizing how much you are hurting the other person. Also, if anyone has any techniques for calming down in the future for when things like that occur in the future, be it with significant other, mother, or whatever.