Also, you use the word manipulation loaded with its ambiguity. How do you know you're manipulating someone? This word should only be used when under extreme circumstances, like describing a criminal. We are obviously not criminals here. I would rather describe ENFJs as being able to bring out the best in others, precisely what we want from others, and skillfully wield our finely-balanced emotional and objective insights onto others just enough to give a slight pressure/nudge to get them to get their engines/thinking caps running.