My mom is ENFJ, and I have to say being your mother you get used to being manipulated mentally into guilt trips (EVEN AS AN INTJ) to do various things, this is even beyond the point I was a child, there is definitely a lot of feeling of her trying "not" to seem manipulative (now that I'm alert for it), but she never the less does it naturally xD
Haha. She's great, though, it's just that she definitely slides in thoughts when she's not happy with you in a more discreet fashion. And they'll bore into your skull and make you go nuts with how she word it, JUST ENOUGH to tactically make you feel remorse even if you weren't planning to feel that way!
But being INTJ, I think I need that level of subtely yet strong feeling of pressure in order to actually get influenced by another person to do anything. My resistances to such outside worldy things are usually so high of resistance, I need those piercing dagger stabs inside my full plate armor in order to wake me up. :)
I can bet she is definitely very good at working with INTJ's, considering she married one. Haha.