ENFJ & Vday

**cindy** · 02-13-2009 03:11 AM

I've been dating an ENFJ male for a little over a month and things seemed like they were going great. I thought he liked me, but he hasn't so much as mentioned Valentine's Day. There is nothing else that makes me think he isn't interested, but as someone who has a few ENFJ girlfriends, I'm kind of inclined to think the fact that he hasn't asked me is the kiss of death. Do you think he is just not interested or not looking for something serious at all if he hasn't mentioned it?

**εmptε** · 02-13-2009 03:30 AM

The day when ENFJs rule the world. I'm waiting on Bri to try and seduce me.

**NephilimAzrael** · 02-13-2009 03:41 AM

This is not the greatest of ideas, but perhaps he has something planned? In that sense , he may be luring you into a surprise.
I would hate to get your hopes up, but this kinda of behaviour was typical of my sister and good friend.. They would act all nonchalant prior to their dates on V-day, and then throw a big song & dance..

I hope that this is the case with your beau.

**cindy** · 02-13-2009 06:05 AM

Yeah the thought had crossed my mind, but I wrote it off as wishful thinking since he knows I'm not really a surprise sort of person and because its so early.

**Happy** · 02-13-2009 11:05 AM

Come back and tell us what happens on Valentines day cindy. We would like to hear an update.

**DayLightSun** · 02-13-2009 11:14 AM

Originally Posted by Lance

Come back and tell us what happens on Valentines day cindy. We would like to here an update.

ENFJ are good at surprises! I know he was.

**Happy** · 02-13-2009 11:26 AM

Originally Posted by BlackFeatheredMask

ENFJ are good at surprises! I know he was.

So ENFJ's are potential killers then? They can give people a heart attack!!!

**DayLightSun** · 02-13-2009 11:27 AM

maybe rofl
They can get psycho. The 3 I know all are. Including my mom.

**Happy** · 02-13-2009 11:34 AM

Oh God I can see it now...

BlackFeatherMask: Mom!!?? Don't kill me!!

*Mom opens curtains*
Mom: Its just a carrot baby.

**Bri** · 02-13-2009 12:04 PM

Originally Posted by cindy

I've been dating an ENFJ male for a little over a month and things seemed like they were going great. I thought he liked me, but he hasn't so much as mentioned Valentine's Day. There is nothing else that makes me think he isn't interested, but as someone who has a few ENFJ girlfriends, I'm kind of inclined to think the fact that he hasn't asked me is the kiss of death. Do you think he is just not interested or not looking for something serious at all if he hasn't mentioned it?

I'm pretty sure he has something planned... it's kind of part of our nature. If he doesn't, then something might be going on. However, we're really expressive, and its hard to hide our emotions... when we try to avoid conflict and glaze over problems, its usually pretty evident that something's wrong. That barely-concealed emotion is our way of dropping a hint.

I think if he was "not feeling it", though, he'd try to "hide" it by feigning excitement for V-day. The fact that he's not... and knowing how incurably romantic we ENFJs are... I'd guess that he's going to surprise you! I hope he does

By the way, I'd bet anything he IS looking for something serious. We don't like to dabble around.. when we commit, we're really looking for something, we want to get the the heart of things. I'm not sure what conclusion he's come to concerning you, but know that he most likely went into the relationship with a serious intention.