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This is a discussion on The Giver? within the ENFJ Forum - The Givers forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; I've always had a problem with that description... seems a bit too slight for what we do! It's a euphamism ...

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    ENFJ - The Givers

    The Giver?

    I've always had a problem with that description... seems a bit too slight for what we do! It's a euphamism essentialy, and I feel like it doesn't do our sacrafices justice!

    I'd prefer if we were know as ENFJ - The Martyr's... I think tha speaks to how much we give up for other people =)

    What do you guys think? Are you happy with being known as the givers... or do you have another name you'd prefer for us? =D
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    ENFJ - The Givers

    "Giver" sounds like "doormat". I've heard "Pedagogue". Again, that sounds like a stuffy little man hiding inside the stacks in a library.

    How about "Body Snatcher"? *grins*

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    ENFJ - The Givers

    Quote Originally Posted by xXDominoXx View Post
    How about "Body Snatcher"? *grins*
    that sounds like a sex pest! =D
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    ENFJ - The Givers

    Martyr sounds a bit better. It sounds more respectful. I always thought "Givers" sounded like a doormat as well.... I went through some jaded times 18-22, but I came out a happy, positive person ... WHO DON'T TAKE NO SHIET!
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    ENFJ - The Givers

    From those that I've heard, I like "Mentor" and "Teacher" the best :)
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    Unknown Personality

    Funny...I hate the term martyr. I think because the term is abused today; I swear that anyone who dies nowadays is seen as "a martyr for their cause". Plus, martyr is often used to create sympathy for horrible and unforgivable events. I don't like to consider myself a martyr, because I do not consciously go out of my way to deprive myself of what I need. I just do it. It happens. I can't explain WHY it happens to such an extent that others sometimes have to remind me to look after myself, but that's what being an ENFJ is about.

    I prefer 'The Mentor' out of all of the above. I think it best portrays what we do; we give assistance when those worthy of help are struggling, yet we also try to teach people to overcome these problems themselves in the future. We encourage a gradual process of help and self-help, and encourage other people to assist those in need.

    Or, at least, I hope we do <3

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    INFP - The Idealists

    Ever heard the saying, "Crazy people don't know they're crazy."?
    I operate by the motto of, "Good people don't know they're good people."
    Therefore, I wish we were called, "the douchebags", or something along those lines. Then, I wouldn't feel the need to live up to the expectations that I'm a good person, and I'd enjoy proving people wrong.
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    I like "emotional landscapists" I think it fits pretty much all the ENFJ's I've ever encountered...
    "the soggy shoulders" (cuz they offer a shoulder to cry on)
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    ENFJ - The Givers

    i think 'giver' and 'martyr' are just too much.
    For one thing, I don't think I'm mistaken when i say that everyone (even ENFJs) are a little evil inside. that's what makes us human, in a way.
    Personally, for really close people, i'd willingly give my life up. but i can be somewhat selfish if i have to with others.

    Of course if i am i little bit selfish i end up berating myself for it and going on a massive guilt trip.

    But I think that 'Teacher' or 'Guide' or something is much better.

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    ENFJ - The Givers

    Quote Originally Posted by Kelsay View Post
    Ever heard the saying, "Crazy people don't know they're crazy."?
    I operate by the motto of, "Good people don't know they're good people."
    Therefore, I wish we were called, "the douchebags", or something along those lines. Then, I wouldn't feel the need to live up to the expectations that I'm a good person, and I'd enjoy proving people wrong.
    Lovve you for saying that!
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