[Teddy Daniels]

I get stuck in this, too, as an ENFJ male. There's a lot of times even with friends I find myself thinking ".....What is it I even do for you? Why do you keep me around? I'm a nice guy. I get it. But that can't be enough.....", and with love interests it feels almost amplified. I have some insecurities of the heart I still need to work out, but I'm way better than I used to be, and it feels like every day I'm getting better about it :)

There are times where if I really, honestly, and deeply feel I am doing nothing for the other person. I just want them to be happy, and I'll gladly duck out, because I don't want to be with someone who I'm holding back from having an amazing relationship for my own sake. That's selfish, and I won't have it. Compliments and reminders are just a way of letting me know where I stand, and so long as I know where I stand with people I am very comfortable. I try to do others the same courtesy... I think I've got it down, and most people know where they stand with me. Mainly the ones I care about, and even some of the ones I don't care for have got the hint.

I have also felt this many time, even with my current girlfriend. Why do people like me? I just don't understand it.



So after reading this post it made me wonder how common among ENFJ this thought/feeling is.

[emerald sea]

you all are warmhearted people. it's hard not to love someone in whose presence you feel loved. :)

i am a huge fan of ENFJs.

you all sometimes have no idea how easy you are to like. :)

[Kelsay]

I feel this way all the time. Especially when people are generous towards me.
People tell me, "I was just talking about you! You're so funny!" And I never understand it.

[Lawless Land]

Its simple why we all love you guys, its because your all awesome!!!!

[Le Beau Coeur]

It's just a natural part of being XNFJ in my opinion.

[SenhorFrio]

not sure what to say other than that I do feel this way.

[RetroVortex]

I can feel like this as well.
Wondering why my best friend chooses ME of all people to hang with.
(I don't know, I just feel like I'm a terrible friend most of the time)

Other people seem to like me as well. I don't know why. It can be pretty annoying sometimes.
(Heh. I guess in the end of the day, I'm my worse critic! XD)

I think I have an inferiority complex... :(

[Malachi]

Well for me I deep down free I'm only kept around a group to be made fun of because I felt that way in my last town. Here in Cali though I've been shown that I'm not just an annoying friend and people like me. And I do on occasion wonder why people like me.

[RememberWhenItRained]

because you all are awesome.

[xXDominoXx]

I say this too. All the time, actually. :( I feel like a selfish hot-headed meanie most of the time.