[Maeve]

It feels so much that Mr. ENFJ likes me, I have no doubts whatsoever, except what I've read on this forum about ENFJs flirting. I mean seriously, my frustration would come from feeling gaslighted and not being able to trust my perceptions (which always serve me well).

Anyway...he just came into a cafe where I'm working, kissed me on the cheek for the first time ever, commented favorably on my new hair color, which is a subtle change that men never notice, showed me a book his mother just wrote, and told me if I show up this weekend for the weekly thingie he will make a special dish. He also has this very gentle happy smile in his eyes these days.

Among other things, the synchronicity is unbelievable....this is a different cafe from last week. The timing is hilarious. haha!

Can someone please put me out of my misery and tell me the dude likes me?



(in the meantime, I came to THIS cafe thinking I wouldn't see him because I just came from the salon and had freaking hair dye streaked into my face. I think it's mostly off but still...gah! Maybe he noticed my new hair color cuz it's all over my face.)

[bigwilly]

LOL!

Here's my take on it: I realize that my behavior can be mistaken as flirtatious, so I tend to avoid behaving in a way that can be interpreted as flirtatious. If I was Mr. ENFJ, and I acted that way, it would be because I was into you.

[ThirdArcade]

It feels so much that Mr. ENFJ likes me, I have no doubts whatsoever, except what I've read on this forum about ENFJs flirting. I mean seriously, my frustration would come from feeling gaslighted and not being able to trust my perceptions (which always serve me well).

Anyway...he just came into a cafe where I'm working, kissed me on the cheek for the first time ever, commented favorably on my new hair color, which is a subtle change that men never notice, showed me a book his mother just wrote, and told me if I show up this weekend for the weekly thingie he will make a special dish. He also has this very gentle happy smile in his eyes these days.

Among other things, the synchronicity is unbelievable....this is a different cafe from last week. The timing is hilarious. haha!

Can someone please put me out of my misery and tell me the dude likes me?

(in the meantime, I came to THIS cafe thinking I wouldn't see him because I just came from the salon and had freaking hair dye streaked into my face. I think it's mostly off but still...gah! Maybe he noticed my new hair color cuz it's all over my face.)

When I read that part, I immediately concluded: HE LIKES YOU ALOT :) I only ever kissed a guy on the cheek if I liked him. I've only done that twice. That's my signal of: HELLO, I LIKE YOU...I AM MAKING IT CLEAR :)

[Maeve]

thanks. I've got to stop reading these threads where the ENFJ comes on strong and then says they have no feelings!

This guy is older, not a spring chicken. So I think he should understand how his behavior can be construed. Also...if he's as perceptive at figuring out people as I think, he knows better than to lead me on. grrrrrrr. haha!

[KC]

NO.

He obviously does NOT like you...

































There there... I'm just kidding...

[Maeve]

hee! KC, I know, I know: I would fit very well as a neurotic character in a Woody Allen film.

[KC]

hee! KC, I know, I know: I would fit very well as a neurotic character in a Woody Allen film.

Really?

Forgive me if I'm out of line but you sound quite crazy for "Mr.ENFJ" here...

Wonder what you're gonna do to the bloke once the both of you get in the sack...


Lucky guy...

[Falling Leaves]

commented favorably on my new hair color, which is a subtle change that men never notice

A happily married ENFJ once complimented me on the fact I painted my nails the day beforehand. Seriously, I swear that he has verbal diarrhoea when it comes to saying nice things to people.

Well if he's avaliable and you like him, I say go for it and invite him for a coffee or something. ENFJs value friendship and, more importantly, a real emotional connection with their potential partner; I would say you need to concentrate on developing a friendship with him and let nature takes it course.

Think of it this way, if it doesn't happen, then chances are it wouldn't have worked out long term anyay.

[rin111]

i compliment girls when they change their eyeliners, guys when they get a new haircut etc. even new bags are varnished with 'Ooh, nice bag!' or at least, 'Oh, new bag.'

as for kissing on the cheek
I dunno if this is a personal trait but i believe that many enfjs are very touch conscious. I hate being accidentally touched by strangers or even close friends, at times. if he kissed you, he s let you in.

then again,
I hold hands and hug and am physically affectionate with my friends( male and female) so he does like you a lot but at the worst, maybe only as a very good friend. you can deff. build on that.