[tiggerdatiger]

So, my Boyfriend (of 6 months now, but going GREAT, thanks for askin'!) has his birthday later this month. I had blocked off my calendar to take him out for his b-day or be free for a group outing with his friends to celebrate... and then come to find out (I actually forgot) one of my really Good Friends (of years) has his annual b-day dinner that I had been to a few times before on the same exact day. Fun sidenote that they share the same b-day, of course. I let my Good Friend know that I already had plans (I didn't say what) and that I can take him out one-on-one the night before, with the fun mention that I just can't share him with all those people, it's too painful- tee hee. He didn't seem to take it well. Not sure quite what to do... I don't want to suggest to make it a combo deal... I'm pretty sure there will be 2 different groups, plus people tend to not like to share the spotlight on their day. I guess I'm feeling guilty or bad, and can react when I feel like I let someone down... my Good Friend was there at my b-day... but this is my Boyfriends' b-day, too, someone who methinks is a good match for me for a long haul, and I would like to celebrate his b-day together for the first time... Thoughts?

[See Above]

So, my Boyfriend (of 6 months now, but going GREAT, thanks for askin'!) has his birthday later this month. I had blocked off my calendar to take him out for his b-day or be free for a group outing with his friends to celebrate... and then come to find out (I actually forgot) one of my really Good Friends (of years) has his annual b-day dinner that I had been to a few times before on the same exact day. Fun sidenote that they share the same b-day, of course. I let my Good Friend know that I already had plans (I didn't say what) and that I can take him out one-on-one the night before, with the fun mention that I just can't share him with all those people, it's too painful- tee hee. He didn't seem to take it well. Not sure quite what to do... I don't want to suggest to make it a combo deal... I'm pretty sure there will be 2 different groups, plus people tend to not like to share the spotlight on their day. I guess I'm feeling guilty or bad, and can react when I feel like I let someone down... my Good Friend was there at my b-day... but this is my Boyfriends' b-day, too, someone who methinks is a good match for me for a long haul, and I would like to celebrate his b-day together for the first time... Thoughts?

Here is an idea, sort of, (though I don't promise that it is a fantastically good one) - how about going with your boyfriend on that day but, somehow, arranging that there will be a wonderful surprised delivered from someone else, as your proxy, (someone you know who is going to be there, or even a 'singing telegram' sort of thing) to your Good Friend during the birthday dinner, so it will be almost as though you were there (in major spirit, at least). Your friend will know that, even though you are not there, you are thinking of him at that moment.

Anyway, random thought.

[tiggerdatiger]

That's an awesome idea! Thanks...

[Etherea]

I think your friend will understand. Just take them out another time and maybe do something along the lines of what @See Above said.