I know I do. I can never make any sense of it because I'm not bad looking or anything. I've become very obsessive about the way I look, but I don't have a negative self image. I carry myself rather highly, and dress and act accordingly usually. Regardless of this, I think my intellectually depressive attitude might turn women off. I like to talk about totally complex things and it seems that no women find that attractive. Over the years this has caused me to constantly wonder what people saw when they looked at me. I use to think that my ability to intellectually communicate would be a chick magnet but now I know better. I don't necessarily view it as a problem with me, though. In fact, I find myself attempting to "dumb myself down" to meet the standards of the women I'm attracted to. Furthermore, it seems that every time I give a women respect they immediately shut me out. It's like they don't want to be with me unless they constantly have to pursue my respect. As soon as I give a women any respect (which I usually believe they deserve) I'm fucked. Plus anytime I start to talk about my true beliefs or try to get into a deep convo with a woman they look at me like I'm an alien. I just don't get it, are women intimidated by intelligence, or just turned off by it, or what?
I know that was a long rant, and I know any guy at my age could go on for hours about women, but I just wanted to see if my fellow male ENFJs have similar issues or not.