I have more than one ENFP say the exact same thing. No matter how many times I read the same sentence it never makes a drop of sense to me. It was actually the confusion elicited by this sentence that led me to finally come to grips with the fact that I was an ENFJ.
Is Ni-Fe so different than Ne-Fi? If so, how?
There are a lot of misnomers and stereotypes flying around about ENFJs. Most of the worst stereotypes and misunderstandings about Ni-Fe have their origins in relationship issues between ENFPs and ENFJs dating (granted there are surprisingly almost as many good things said about these relationship pairings as there are bad).
The true difference between an ENFP and an ENFJ is that an ENFP's processing system has Ne-Fi on the surface and Ni-Fe in the deeper recesses of the psyche and in the ENFJ it is reversed.
So when the ENFP mind says: "Oh, look at those doughnuts. Great Aunt Sally used to eat long johns every morning. She died from a heart attack. Still those doughnuts look delicious. I bet they'd taste really good."
The ENFJ mind makes a conscious effort to say: "Look, smell, imagine but do not set a foot inside that bakery. Just keep walking."
Both thought processes can be and are happening simultaneously in both ENFP's and ENFJ's. And in case you didn't notice, these thoughts are intimately connected to each other. The ENFJ decision is based on the ENFP thought process. The ENFJ decision says: You shouldn't pig out on doughnuts. The ENFP thought stream was inspired by the Ni-Fe inner dialog that fed the Ne-Fi thought stream the lesson of Great Aunt Sally's death.
ENFJ's and ENFP's are sides of the psychological coin.
Oh, and
@The Great One, MBTI is how Enneagram is why. If you want to know why different people help people, I suggest you look into the enneagram types.
Type 1's help people because it is the right thing to do and doing the right thing makes them happy and if they don't do the right thing they feel awful.
Type 2's help people because they love to be loved, they love to be needed, they love to give love, they love connecting with people (most common MBTI function associated with type 2 is Fe).
Type 3's help people for several reasons: 1st in order to demonstrate or flaunt something, 2nd in their higher levels they're likely to develop the teams manship of the type 6 and view others as their team mates that they want to share the limelight with.
Type 4's help people if it's part of their unique identity to do so. They also get overly generous when they're stressed.
Type 5's help people by giving insight. I read that social/sexual fives are likely to want to go to the party but they want to be the DJ or have something to do. They help the most often by taking charge when they're integrating at 8.
Type 6's help people because they want certainty. Helping people for 6's is about duty but if we don't fulfill our duties we feel pain and guilt and often we feel good and happy when we have fulfilled our duties. It brings me a level of personal satisfaction and happiness when I know I was able to do so much to get it all done.
Type 7's help people because they want people around them at the movies or the concert. It's no fun by themselves.
Type 8's help people because a truly powerful person is powerful enough to take care of themselves and other people. And when you bring home the bacon it's your house and everyone must abide by your law.
Type 9's help people because when someone is in their presence they have difficulty distinguishing between themselves and the other person. They help people by calming them down and giving reassurance. This is natural to them because they want peace and sometimes they have to calm you down and/or give to people in order to obtain that peace.
That's just my theory on it anyway.