Could an introvert regard extroverted activities as derogatory?

I wonder if it has to do with extreme introversion.



For example, I think my mother doesn't understand the dynamics of some shows. There's a show in here, where there are people collaborating and speaking, and sometimes, the host tells them to do something crazy, like singing, for example, or those things. My mother says that's derogatory and laughing to people. I can't understand it, because I see they work there, and they are there doing this because they want, and they are not poor people that will sell their lives for a cent, you know? And even although they sing bad and everyone laughs, I don't see it derogatory; it's like when you go to a karaoke.

Is my mother simply moronic and uptight or this has a justification in MBTI?
Anyway.

Originally Posted by scarygirl

I wonder if it has to do with extreme introversion.

For example, I think my mother doesn't understand the dynamics of some shows. There's a show in here, where there are people collaborating and speaking, and sometimes, the host tells them to do something crazy, like singing, for example, or those things. My mother says that's derogatory and laughing to people. I can't understand it, because I see they work there, and they are there doing this because they want, and they are not poor people that will sell their lives for a cent, you know? And even although they sing bad and everyone laughs, I don't see it derogatory; it's like when you go to a karaoke.

Is my mother simply moronic and uptight or this has a justification in MBTI?
Anyway.

Why are you scary? I am confused.

Is your mom an S or a J? I think "respectability" is high on some people's moral values. I used to hate seeing an S-J friend laughs when my other friends were laughing AT her, and not WITH her. This used to blow my top, and because she did not have the F on her side. She just does a fake laugh. I find this morally wrong. Maybe your mom has an F somewhere as well ? It's a degrading act on someone's behalf. To me, it's not an uptight thing. Cos it just demonstrates your values being different to your mom's ?

My sis-in-law kind of scolded my nephew the other day when he watched Simpsons. She did not understand the underlying jokes behind the cartoon. All she heard were the "keekeke" sound, and thought that it was a really stupid and non-educational program that my nephew was watching. I also used to think that the Simpsons were not that good, until I saw some of the jokes used, and thought that they were pretty clever. But it is kind of wrong, well... subjective a light relief to how we are in society.

We all view things differently according to our own values.

And even although they sing bad and everyone laughs, I don't see it derogatory; it's like when you go to a karaoke.

If they were mimicing bad singing, then this is different. It can be seen as a sketch. But if they were trying to be good, and were singing badly, then this is bad taste. I wouldn't say it's derogatory, as it means something else different. I can see it as a bad taste kind of joke. That is why great comedian is very astute to draw that thin line between real, and fake, and timing it well.

@OP: but YOU are an INFP and this doesn't bother you, right? So should not be an Introvert thing.

However, as your mom I don't like watching anyone be laughed at, and have hard time recognizing the laughing with. The J could be in here as Mei said, but it's too little still...

I don't understand. Of course they are being paid and its all just a silly show anyway. Maybe she's like my grandma who thinks that virtually everything she sees on TV is real (she's an ESTJ btw). I guess she just doesn't get reality TV. Not that there's anything to get!

Your mom is using Fi in her assessment. Fi is the function that puts things in emotional order. My INFJ mom judges the things I do pretty harshly as well. I totally agree with you about your viewpoint. I think this is a problem of J vs. P myself. Judgers often make assessments or have automatic reaction to judge without thinking about where other people are coming from right away. We all do it but we have to use a Judging function to do it.

@marzipan01
I think you got my point. Sometimes we all laugh at others, I mean, with them, but, I laugh at the things my friends say, and they do at what I say.
But some of your posts above have made me think much, and I think I was not expressing myself properly in this post.
:) So sorry.