I'm fairly new to the site, so if this topic has been covered elsewhere please send me a link.
I'm writing this with a starting assumption that type is inherent, which seems to be the general consensus in what I've read.
My personal reasons for asking:
I have a particular curiosity because of my own personal development and life stage;
When I was young I was a certain way. When I became a teenager I modified my behaviour to some degree to try to please my mother (way more there that I won't get into here, but more than just the 'want to be a good girl' situation). Through that time I typed a certain way on school tests and online tests for MBTI (note that I've never had a thorough MBTI one-on-one analysis, though some of these were administered to a class of students by someone with some training).
In my late 20's I found myself looking around and thinking 'I have a great career, I make good money, I have all the things I wanted out of life.. but I don't feel fulfilled'. My work looked great on paper but I felt like I there was little value in it. I wasn't sleeping, was drinking too much and was horribly stressed (despite many prior stresses in my life being gone), and as I started exploring that more I started reconnecting with things I'd done as a child. And then I started feeling more authentic, sleeping, needing to self-medicate less... and I did some more online MBTI tests and interesting I was consistently typing differently.
Now I know the online tests don't mean much - but so far other tests I take (like the CareerStrength test and others) as well as looking at cognitive functions (which I'm still just learning) seem to support the 'new' typing. It also seems to fit with what I know of the 'young me'.
Finally on to my actual questions....
From a more scientific/knowledgeable standpoint - what would or should happen to a person if they spent the better part of their life trying to be something other than their inherent type, for whatever reason? (I'd think someone who is out of touch with their type and living based on external expectations of society, etc would be in the same boat).
~ If this is what happened to me I can vouch for feeling stressed and unfulfilled as an adult, feeling like you 'should be happy' on an intellectual level but not 'feeling' that way inside. To be honest the reason I've ended up here is all the career books that I've been reading discuss trying to work/live in line with your values, authentic self, or MBTI (in the case of 'Do what you are').
~ How might you feel toward your true type (at my 'peak' I think I sort of looked down on the type I most relate to now, at various times I've ignored, vilified, or envied that type)
~ Would this cause or contribute to self-esteem issues?
~ Would this lead to over-development of your lesser functions? Under-development of what should be your primary functions?
~ Are there any studies on this sort of thing - any psychological things tied into it?
~ How much of who we are is inherent vs. who we 'want' to be? Obviously the other explanation in my situation is that I was stressed and unhappy for other reasons and now seek a different type because I've idealized it in my mind. How can one know?
I'm interested in both the global truth of these questions and also specifics on a personal level. If anyone has thoughts, theories, or evidence please post here. If anyone wishes to psychoanalyze me send a PM. I welcome any thoughts on determining my own true type so feel free to comment on that, but this thread is also hopefully something interesting to others - so feel free to post your own experiences!
~ Boots ~