INTJs- How do you feel about Reconciliation?
by, 05-26-2012 at 10:18 AM (190 Views)
So for about 9 months I've known this INTJ. From the moment of our first meeting we were attracted to each other and our relationship grew rapidly after that. After being "involved" for a couple months, we began an official relationship. Very shortly thereafter however, I ended the relationship and did so as nicely as possible. I ended things because I was fearful of one- a relationship itself and two- I thought that my feelings for him were much deeper than his for me and I was fearful of getting hurt. (I know INTJs are rather aloof when it comes to expressing their affection but I didn't know that at the time... He's always been very kind and loyal to me though.) Of course, I didn't tell any of this to him; all he was told is that I thought of us as better friends.
He put a lot of effort into rekindling our friendship and we became amazingly close friends. Months later I decided I owed it to myself and to him to be honest about my feelings for him. I told him and he said, after A LOT of thinking, he just isn't ready for a relationship at the moment (he is extremely focused on work) but will think about it in the summer. This was over a month ago. We're still great friends, but I'm wondering if I need to give up hope.
INTJs- I'd like to hear your input on how you feel about reconciling after breakups. If you like someone enough would you give them another shot? Or is it a one-time deal?
Thanks so much! Any advice is welcome!