Sex vs. Love
by, 08-11-2010 at 04:17 PM (742 Views)
The inspiration for me to dive into this subject was the http://personalitycafe.com/member-po...er-honest.html thread.
When I am in love and being satisfied sexually, that person is the most desirable thing in the universe to me; every little piece from their eyelashes to their love handles. My view of them literally morphs and they end up glowing some how. I do not desire or even think of anyone else but them in a sexual way. They end up being the object of my fantasies.
However, when I am not in a love relationship, I lust for the stereotypical stuff like big tits and tight butt in females and huge dicks, muscles and charm in men. When I fall in love and get back into a serious relationship, all this lust stuff magically disappears and I look back wondering WTF was going on in my head.
Going to analyze this now.
The fact that the person's physical details could be anything when I am in love and still be the most desirable physical features to me, would mean that the physical is not the thing that attracts. Also a fact: If the person had no soul/mind/personality (were dead) I would be disgusted as opposed to attracted. All this leads me to believe that it is the soul that is the attractive factor.
QUESTION! How the heck does scenario B fit into any of this?!?! Where is it coming from? How is it even possible?
Christianity would say it is the devil's temptation. I would say based on my "What I Think" blog, that it is one ignoring the truth/a misunderstanding of sorts. Science would say it is instinct for attraction to one best fit for procreation.
I am going to combine all three and say that we have a soul and an animal body with instincts. Our souls yearn for a love relationship while our bodies have instincts. They work together to make us want a certain someone. It is difficult and maybe even impossible to find someone with ideal qualities to suit both soul and instinctual desires perfectly. This is when the illusion that we have to choose between the two is manifested. We all the sudden somehow forget that being in love trumps instinctual physical desires and makes them become obsolete. The truth is always there for us to view. I remember that love trumps, but I have this over whelming ever present draw to physical when not in love. It is difficult to go against our animal instincts and have faith in the info our other half (soul) knows to be true. We end up effectively ignoring the truth in scenario A and are never satisfied, making us try to get "more" out of the physical attraction stuff than just babies! We all know what happens when all we care about is physical attraction and disregard the person inside; evil things such as rape and oppression. The middle ground would be to acknowledge your instincts for what they are, simple things telling you which person would make the best babies with you. They are advise, not your oppressive dictator. The thing is that we don't need the best since we have huge brains, we only need sufficient to make adequately strong babies or no babies at all since there are plenty of humans out there anyway!
It is this ability to choose between the two that makes us human and not just animals and our souls are ever present whether we ignore them or not.