E8 Blog #1: overpowering physical urges, sex
by, 03-21-2010 at 12:50 AM (839 Views)
(I was inspired to start a blog / blog tag/category about living as an E8. This is more sure than my MBTI type, for now, as well)
Something I've become more and more aware of over the last few years is how easily influenced other people in terms of certain things... particularly because I'm not quite so easily influenced; I tend to dictate certain things very strongly.
I wanted to write briefly about physical urges here, because I've realized how I tend to be able to bring it out in other people. Even if it is getting people to laugh when going out to dinner, or collecting people to 'go to dinner', and making them 'realize' that they are hungry, there seems to be something about this that amounts to some sort of influence over others. I don't think this is some special magical quality of being an E8 or anything like that, but, it's something that I'm reflecting on right now, I've seen it before in my life.
To me, I think I have a much better understanding of people's instinctual (earthy) urges and desires than most - sometimes even better than they do (or are willing to admit to themselves). This seems to be related to seeking truth and core influences on things in general. I'm curious as to why some people aren't aware of it or almost see it as something to be avoided.
Anyway, specifically about sex - I've noticed that some people simply are waiting for someone else to "go there" and then they get sexual themselves. I'm actually more intrigued by people I cannot easily influence, or at least some of them, because they often are that way for very strong reasons, often moral... the people who are that way because of some deep-seated insecurity are less appealing, because they are doing out of weakness and fear. But I do respect people who try to properly value sex, and I have nothing against virginity or waiting until marriage for sex.
I am somewhat concerned that some people don't seem to value sex or think about sex properly. It has consequences on people, and if you don't realize that you're in denial, which is unhealthy.
So it's been very interesting to consider all this, as an E8 who has gotten healthier over the last few years, I believe. My take on sex and women and relationships has changed a lot. Perhaps more about that next time.