Originally Posted by Mindgamess I think we like to feel like we're doing what we're "supposed" to do, which is usually something that will ensure a better future. In the context of a relationship, that is helping support the other person. In the context of work, that is doing our job and making money. We have a reason for doing everything, and it is always usually the same reason. It makes the future more secure, which makes us happy.
I think when we aren't doing this, we feel helpless and dependent. I
Originally Posted by stone100674 It is when we go hot and cold, or distant and then close, as we struggle to make sense of what we actually feel or want: or why somebody would want to be with us. There are times when getting close can be scary and boom: we need to consider or reconsider the value of something.
Originally Posted by Magic Mirror You do have a communication problem, but I don't think it's anyone's fault - not yours, not the others'. You simply speak different languages.
You speak the Te language. Your language is direct, clear, effective, literal, to the point. You say what you mean and mean what you say. I don't know you personally, but I'll make a guess based on my experiences with other xxTJ people: you don't make a lot of promises, do you? You stand by your words by default so making "promises"
You are a Type 6 with a 5 wing: "The Defender" Your tritype is 6w5, 8w9, 3w2.
In enneagram theory, you have one type for how you relate to the world (either 8, 9, or 1), one type for how you think (5, 6, 7) and one type for how you see yourself (2, 3, 4.) Your tri-type contains one number from each of these triads. They are listed in the order of how strongly they present in your personality.
Your Cognitive Functions:
Introverted Sensation (Si) |||||||||||||||||||||||||||| 13.31
Introverted Thinking (Ti) ||||||||||||||||||||||||||| 12.61
Extroverted Thinking (Te) |||||||||||||||||||||||||| 12.16
Extroverted Sensation (Se) |||||||||| 4.245
Introverted Feeling (Fi) ||||||| 2.79
Introverted Intuition (Ni) || -0.4
Extroverted Feeling (Fe) || -1.48
Extroverted Intuition (Ne) ||||||||| -5.73
Based on your cognitive functions,