Raising Daughters - My 6 year old and the struggle to fit in
by, 05-28-2012 at 08:59 AM (125 Views)
My oldest child, age 6, not 7 until october , Soft spoken, Reserved, To herself, quite, strives to please others, seeks approval. heart of gold, Shy, struggles to fit in. i see so much of myself in her. Its actually frightening. This morning while walking her to school she turned to me and said "mom, what do I do if Kids don't want to play with me, and I am to shy to talk to other kids in the other class" This comment from her kind of left me almost speechless, I stopped, thought quickly and started babbling on, Explaining to her that now, Next year and her entire life she is going to meet all types of people, and some of them are not going to be nice, This is their problem and not her's, they don't know what a great friend they are missing out and they aren't even giving themselves a chance to meet a wonderful little girl, She quickly ended the conversation, with, Well its not very nice and I don't like school. Brooklynn has always struggled socially,She is not a child to throw herself into social situations and just go with the flow like many kids are, but When she has the guidance of her younger sister who is 16 months younger, complete opposite to her, She fallows and is comfortable. I have come to realize, children are mean, I can't find no other word for it then that, little girls are catty! The exact reason I think I have never found myself a part of that typical girl click. I didn't realize the struggle to fit in started so young, these kids are 6 and 7 years old. I hope rather then get worse for her, it gets better. I hope I am inflicting the right morals and values in her that it influences her more then her peers. Its bothersome for me now, I think I am in for a whole other roller coaster as time goes on in to pre teen and teen years, But I will leave that one alone until the time comes.