jacquelinealison

Withdrawn? Yes. Anti-social? Maybe. Boring? No.
Reflection is a great thing, but dwelling on problems can be a problem itself if not dealt with correctly. As long as you find the time alone fulfilling, there's nothing wrong with it. Be who you are. Not what others want you to be.
People usually understand the concept of self discovery, but they may not understand your methods. We all have our own. That just something they'll have to live with. :)

I've never thought of it like that before, thank you! I feel slightly ignorant now, but thank you for helping me understand that everyone has different ways of doing things, of living, none of which can be classified as correct or incorrect

You're welcome! I think it's something you already knew; you just needed to hear it. :)

You are an infj and we need time away from others to think and reflect. The infj has a rich inner world. He/she is always taking in information around them and sorting it out to make sense of everything. This is how the infj is wired. Another infj or intuitive personality would understand this. Those comments sound like things that sensors would say. It could be as simple as a "s" or "n" misunderstanding. I'm a fellow infj and you are not boring, withdrawn, or anti-social. You are pondering, reflecting, and recharging. It is what we do.

Originally Posted by blissfulpeach

You are an infj and we need time away from others to think and reflect. The infj has a rich inner world. He/she is always taking in information around them and sorting it out to make sense of everything. This is how the infj is wired. Another infj or intuitive personality would understand this. Those comments sound like things that sensors would say. It could be as simple as a "s" or "n" misunderstanding. I'm a fellow infj and you are not boring, withdrawn, or anti-social. You are pondering, reflecting, and recharging. It is what we do.

Thank you very much for that! I don't feel so strange now knowing there are others like me somewhere in the world. So thank you! You seem very intelligent:)

I am thankful for PerC because I have felt strange too. Reading posts, responding to posts, and cultivating friendships on PerC has helped me realize that I am not alone in my thinking. What I believe is so hard for the infj is that there is only 1-2% of our personality in the world. We do not think or act like other personalities. Few people understand us, therefore, to gather on PerC is extremely helpful to us. It is like we are all reaching with out stretched hands saying "Oh, thank God some-one understands me!" I have perused the other forums and the infj is the most active because we need to connect with other infj's. In life outside of our forum, I only know of one other infj. This person I just met a year ago. We met because we needed to carpool to work. Those commutes allowed us to talk and we found that we thought and reacted the same to almost everything. Because I am familiar with Meyer Briggs, I was able to save her some problems she was having with her children. Problems that were amazingly like mine because we had daughters with the same personalities. I have thanked God for meeting her because finally some-one fully understood my thought process. She later tested herself as infj. I hope to keep this friendship because infj's need to be around other infj's. We feel lonely, strange, misunderstood, and sometimes unwanted by the others around us. We see patterns and predict what will happen, but so few listen. That hurts because we desire the best for our families, children, and friends. We desire to serve and help others, but so few understand this or us. Anyways, stay on PerC and look for other infj's in the real world too. It will help immensely.

That's so lovely that you've found someone you really connect to! I've never found anyone who truely understands me in real life. I guess I've kind of given up now, and I, in a way, hide my true perseonality because I'm so certain that if I start talking about how I really feel people will think I'm talking nonsense no matter how hard I try to explain myself. But I suppose we all should realise there is always someone who will understand.

I don't think I would have found this infj, if I hadn't been seeking Meyer Briggs data. I tested years ago in a psychology class and learned that I was infj. Since no one around me was into it and I did not know any other infj's; I sort of forgot about it. However, last year, I was having trouble communicating with some people and started looking up Meyer Briggs personality stuff to see how I could correct the problem. In doing so, I stumbled on to PerC. I read posts and put the puzzle together on my problem. (I am good at analyzing and figuring out personalities). I began to do that and soon recognized my car passenger was infj too. However, if you are not into it, you don't really notice or cast people. My point is that I may have known one or two infj's in my lifetime, but didn't recognize it because of not being into MB. If you start looking, you may find another infj for a friend in real life. However, you do have many here on PerC.