Feelings That Made Me Feel & Thoughts That Made Me Think

That pic is awesome!! And those books seem interesting, especially the vampire book. I hate it when certain people are like that on purpose :/ Many times I have wondered what is behind that, why would someone want to do things like that, mean to be mean...

The worst part of draining others dry is that my own enthusiasm can make some people tired of me and my presence. It feels awful when you are not accepted as who you are :'/ I guess I'm too sensitive. I used to have issues related to avoidant personality (I'd love to read that book you've mentioned) and low self-esteem. Nowadays I am much more myself but it still feels bad when others cannot share your wave lengths and energy levels. But I'm not withdrawing anymore, it's take it or leave it now. There will always be people who hate me but I'm delighted that I have so many friends now ^_^

Originally Posted by zallla

That pic is awesome!! And those books seem interesting, especially the vampire book. I hate it when certain people are like that on purpose :/ Many times I have wondered what is behind that, why would someone want to do things like that, mean to be mean...

-----It has always confused me why some people seem to like to be mean. However, that book explains that much of the time people exhibiting these behaviors are acting the way they are because of complex emotional damage and fear. In other words, they aren't usually doing it on purpose. Most of the time, the way they react and behave has absolutely nothing to do with us.

Originally Posted by zallla

The worst part of draining others dry is that my own enthusiasm can make some people tired of me and my presence. It feels awful when you are not accepted as who you are :'/ I guess I'm too sensitive. I used to have issues related to avoidant personality (I'd love to read that book you've mentioned) and low self-esteem. Nowadays I am much more myself but it still feels bad when others cannot share your wave lengths and energy levels. But I'm not withdrawing anymore, it's take it or leave it now. There will always be people who hate me but I'm delighted that I have so many friends now ^_^

-----I cannot speak for others, but I find your positiveness and enthusiasm energizing. Sensors in general may react negatively to iNtuitive communication, whether delivered enthusiastically or not. J-types can be put off by enthusiasm if it does not fit their mental "schedule." I imagine the reason I get along better with some INFJs than others probably has to do with this. Much of the time there is an instant connection, but sometimes I can tell they think I'm gushing--in other words, the connection is literally spilling out more quickly than their mental model allows.
-----I hear that you feel like maybe you are too sensitive, and you are (of course) entitled to feel that way. From my perspective, you are sensitive in a good way--and not oversensitive. I think many NFs, in particular, have a history of being emotionally invalidated--because from the perspective of the other types, we are. This causes us to doubt ourselves internally when really the doubt is being shoved into us from the outside. Here's a great link on this topic: Invalidation. The other issues you mentioned are things I have struggled with in the past, too. They're not uncommon issues for NFs.
-----Your attitude of "it's take it or leave it now" is, in my opinion, very healthy. That seems to be the default status of other types, but NFs seem to have to struggle to get there. That attitude demands reciprocity in relationships, which is one of the main characteristics of a healthy relationship. I'm glad you have many friends, now--especially because they are friends who accept and love you for who you are. I think of you as my friend even though we are to each other digital presences. I'm sure the people you find in real life are no less happy to have met you--because you were acting like you.

Aww, thanks :) In general, I can feel most like myself when with Ne-users and Fi-users. My closest real life friends are Nines, the ones whose types I know are ISFP and INFP :) I seem to attract Nines, maybe it's because I by myself am awful at adapting much and have my own ideas and love to inspire others... And my friends seem to look for someone to inspire them too and I'm only delighted to have company :)