Exoticenfp

I can relate to harsh problems with the family. I also experienced the lump in my throat, tough breathing, elevated noise when breathing as if i had sprinted. Through those times I became very Introverted(INTP). I began to hate people become distant from my family other than my grandfather. If I may suggest pick up this book Healing Yourself With Self-Hypnosis by Joseph R. Berger, Frank S. Caprio and Caroline Miller 1998, Hardcover, Revised | eBay The reason I gave you an ebay link was I purchased this book and ebay was the cheapest. Anyways, I was surprised at how well this book helped me. Those events may have scarred your subconsciousness. In return your subconsciousness is trying to prevent any event that would bring back memories or have the same result. No offense, it is a tad difficult to speculate, and analyze what your exactly saying, because of your grammar. Were you having a anxiety attack when typing this? How frequently do they occur? Can you think of anything from each attack with every occurrence that it could relate to?

Thankyou for your replie I opened the eBay page and if u believe thee book is that good I will
im over analyzing it gets worse every day.
Yes I was having major anxiety when I wrote it
i was on the 24th hour of it
My mind was at its worst

That book teaches you how to communicate with your subconscious.I believe thats chapter 5. The rest of the chapters essentially tells you how to go about certain problems such as: alcohol + drugs, i believe stress and anxiety... Etc... 24 hour? have you tried remedying it? Letting it continue without figuring out why, doesn't help. One thing that may help is finding a way to relax. Worst comes to worst consult a psychiatrist. They can help you stumble upon why it occurs and help solve.

Originally Posted by Intp0213

That book teaches you how to communicate with your subconscious.I believe thats chapter 5. The rest of the chapters essentially tells you how to go about certain problems such as: alcohol + drugs, i believe stress and anxiety... Etc... 24 hour? have you tried remedying it? Letting it continue without figuring out why, doesn't help. One thing that may help is finding a way to relax. Worst comes to worst consult a psychiatrist. They can help you stumble upon why it occurs and help solve.

Tep 24th hour no sleep
anxious and surrounded by the triggers
hmmm I'm going to invest in that book
i don't understand how my ENFP FUNCTIONS WORK
PEOPLE SEEM TO SAY THINGS LIKE Ne and have it figured out
do u know much

I do. In order to better understand it you should be relaxed. In google type portrait of an ENFP. Understanding the 8 Jungian Cognitive Processes (8 Functions) should also help.

Exoticenfp,

I saw your post after I googled ENFP and anxiety (after feeling sorry for myself!). I wasn't a member of PersonalityCafe but felt compelled to register after reading your message. Here are my thoughts:

- It sounds like you have anxiety, if not depression too. That's okay; they tend to exist at the same time.
- NFPs tend to feel the most depressed/melancholic, so what you are feeling is not necessarily unique from the rest of us
- The self-hypnosis book might be a good option.
- You should go to a sexual-abuse support group for your childhood experience.
- Also go to a support group for your eating disorder, even if you think you are past it.
- You may also want to go to a rape-victims support group for what happened when you were 18.
- There are AL-ANON support groups for children of alcoholics.
- If you can afford it, join a gym that has yoga classes. That will give you some exercise while also giving you better emotional-mental well-being. Cardio workouts are important too.
- If you can afford it (or if your dad can), get psychotherapy or hypnotherapy. They're great!
- You may also need medication for anxiety. That's fine. I recommend Lexapro. You can get it cheaply with a prescription from Canada Pharmacy.
- If you feel really awful, never be afraid to call a suicide-prevention hotline. That's what they are there for.

Good luck! Soon your inner beauty will match your outer beauty.

Thankyou
are u a ENFP?
I didn't loose my virginity to rape at 18, but I guess u gave some logical ways to get better and stay better.
Live got a psychologist booked tomoro and I'm going to handle this anxiety problem with mindfulness.
Thankyou for registering just to tell me this,
Do u also have anxiety also???
Pin stubborn against medication
part of me feels wrongly against it,
Pantone else???

Exotic,

I am indeed an ENFP. On that note, the best Myers-Briggs books I know are by Paul Tieger.

About losing your virginity, it may not have been rape in the legal sense, but it sounds like the guy cheated and betrayed you and as a result raped you emotionally (but maybe not physically). Being a guy myself, he probably sweet-talked his way into building your trust, and then as soon as he got your virginity, he ditched you.

Congrats on lining up a psychologist. Stay patient with it. And do consider hypnotherapy as well.

I do have anxiety. I take lexapro. A generic actually through "Canada Pharmacy" (a great way to get meds cheaply). You may or may not need medication. I would try a counseling psychologist or social worker (MSW) first. And do consider those different support groups I mentioned. For mindfulness, you may want to try meditation (as well as yoga), but ENFPs tend to struggle with meditation since we usually have attention-deficit-disorder problems.

Honestly i don't think people need medication for anxiety. Not only do doctors just squeeze money from you, you have no idea if what your taking is just a placebo.

Intp0213, it depends how bad the anxiety is. To a certain extent I agree with you. But people with bad anxiety also tend to have major depression, and a medication can help them. I am fairly sure I am taking a real drug because it comes in pharmaceutical packaging (straight from the manufacturer). Well, you can never be 100%. In my case with anxiety, I was pulling out my toe nails from their nailbeds and would get very teary when talking to people about sensitive issues. I wasn't able to talk about heavy emotional things without actually crying - which is good in some contexts but not others.

Medication should not be the first route. I went through years of counseling, and then there was a phase where I wondered if I had bipolar disorder. Only after getting a conclusive three-day exam at Stanford University Hospital, where they told me that I just had anxiety, was I willing to do medication.

Your initial suggestion about self-hypnosis exercises were great. That might be too difficult for her, and so the next step would be a hypnotherapist. Exotic, you can find a good one through either Resources, Information and Continuing Education | American Association of Professional Hypnotherapists or American Society of Clinical Hypnosis > Home

Hi guys
i saw the psychologist today
she said I have clinical depression
she asked if I want medication,
i said no.
she said I seemed quite intelligent and resourceful and that I need to come back and see her
that she sees three issues we need to work on
dad and I, mum and I, and my relationship wih th on and off relationship in my life
so I'm excited in a small sense to get active about my depression that stops me from feeling motivated or to get out of bed when I promised myself I would.


Depression sucks.
insound 16 saying thus
but it does,

Big friendly giant,
did counseling help u?

Exotic,

Counseling did help me, and so did medication in its own way. But I would hold off from taking meds for a bit. IMO, it's not right for a psychiatrist to say you need meds within the first appointment. Ask to tell your story a bit more to her/him. You may also want to consider the opinion of a 2nd psychiatrist too, just to confirm things. Meds alter your chemical balance a little bit, to the point where you shouldn't drink alcohol or a few other things. But if you need a good medication suggestion, I recommend Lexapro. Still... wait a bit. Also consider going to one of those support groups I mentioned.

And, in addition, you may want to consider reading a book of a personality test that I found to be more insightful than the Myers-Briggs test. It's the ANSIR model (A New Style of Relating). It has many more permutations than the MBTI, thus your particular description will be of a better fit to you than the ENFP one. The problem is that the founder died, and the test is no longer available. You would have to buy the book and use deductive reasoning (process of elimination) to narrow down to the descriptions that fit you best. The book is called "3 Sides of You," by Sandra Seich. It helped me immensely.

i will definately see a second psychologist thankyou for that advice
i have major anxiety today
Im upset and cant stop thinking about the destructive relationship im stuck in
everytime i let it go he chases, makes it hard to go
Yet makes me feel unconditionaly loved and accepted
Im very tired of it and plan on having a talk in a bit, He makes communicating inpossible with his narrow minded defensive nature
Im tired of triggers and put downs that affect me...
I dont want a sad marriage

I had a thought,
Maybe the inner child in me is trying to recreated the sadness and hurt that i seen in my parents marriage
maybe thats why i keep allowing myself to go back, when sunconscioulsy i know it will never change

Maybr he reminds me of my dad?
Maybe i remind myself of my mum in this relationship,
The one who always leaves.

Im sorry i sound depressing. Its cause i am depressed obviously

Are you similar to me or are you happily in love or in a relationship??

Ill look into getting that book at the library when i get some motivation
Thankyou for posting back to me and communicating and trying to help

I do appreciate it

I'm single right now. I decided awhile back to make myself as myself as emotionally as healthy as possible before getting into a relationship. The relationship will benefit as a result.

You may also want to see a marriage therapist if you are married, but that can get expensive.

Hi , I feel really sorry for all the things which happened to you, this is just a suggestion from my side, take it only if you feel good. Get some job, earn a little bit, go out for a trip (alone is what I would prefer) , enjoy every moment of your life, enjoy the nature, I feel nature gives us the power to overcome any problem, talk with trees flowers birds and sea, make few ppl laugh, help few with their tiny job, if you do this at the end of the day your mind will be highly satisfied, you will feel your true energy coming out, (just try some of those if not for all) I am pretty sure you will feel better, even I am enfp :-D , when I feel depressed, left alone or irritated (my problems are very puny compared to yours) I just do some things which I mentioned above, I feel good :-D let me know if you tried and whether it was any good or not,

Friendly person.

Originally Posted by Pachhondi

Hi , I feel really sorry for all the things which happened to you, this is just a suggestion from my side, take it only if you feel good. Get some job, earn a little bit, go out for a trip (alone is what I would prefer) , enjoy every moment of your life, enjoy the nature, I feel nature gives us the power to overcome any problem, talk with trees flowers birds and sea, make few ppl laugh, help few with their tiny job, if you do this at the end of the day your mind will be highly satisfied, you will feel your true energy coming out, (just try some of those if not for all) I am pretty sure you will feel better, even I am enfp :-D , when I feel depressed, left alone or irritated (my problems are very puny compared to yours) I just do some things which I mentioned above, I feel good :-D let me know if you tried and whether it was any good or not,

Friendly person.

I like what u said
alot
and I will
i found a job today
and something else positive happened yestersay

Do u have facebook