cynthiareza

I'm not an INTJ, but what if you had one-on-ones with people instead?

I do...but I still end up feeling misunderstood. I guess I need to work on communicating. :)

Are a lot of the people you speak of sensors? LOL, I sometimes think a lot of the issues is the intuitive vs sensor communication styles!

that maybe part of the problem, i think some of them are. its so frustrating!!

I have the same issue, pretty much. My thoughts come out far easier in typing/writing than in speech. For me it's a problem of extemporaneous speaking, without the time to plan out what I want to say it comes out wrong.

I'm sorry you're lonely. Blaming yourself for the way your mind works, though? What exactly can you do about it?

@ Flatlander your right I probably shouldnt blame myself. I just need to learn to deal with it.

well, i think my thoughts are better expressed through typing than talking. i do gte frustrated some times when ppl just make assumptions of their own without knowing what im really thinking. but, there are so many thoughts in my mined and i have this feeling that even if i express it, no one can understand it anyway. so i keep silent. but i dont hate being silent or blame myself...:)

it's ok to feel misunderstood.. it will make you question and analyze the world and come up with amazing ideas.. my suggestion would be to keep writing.. diaries.. blogs... whatever they are called these days.. but it helps you develop means to express yourself to the world.. why blame yourself when you can have the whole world to blame? i remember as a teenager i guess i developed this protective shield where i set a rule that i hated ALL guys.. then comes this very suitable guy who fits all the criteria i set for the impossible dream partner.. and i still hated all guys, i just had to find a way to change what i meant by 'guys'.. what i'm trying to say is, it's never your fault.. you are not wrong.. in fact, most probably you are right..

It sounds as if you are talking about me! I am also an INTJ and my first time here. I know how you feel.

I absolutely love my INTJ chat buddy. That's probably because I know her better than just on the surface. She also seems to be having bits of trouble around people, although her confidence seems to help out. I guess that being blamed is alright because we all make mistakes. We can't learn from our mistakes if we don't allow others to point them out.