abigaleblues

XSTJ Trouble

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by , 05-01-2012 at 10:27 AM (223 Views)
I'm really struggling with XSTJs of the world right now. I once heard them being referred to as the "thought police" which has been hurting me lately.

I am struggling in my career. I know that I have a lot of great qualities that employers are looking for, I just have a hard time articulating it. I know that I don't belong in marketing and advertising (the worst field possible for those of us that seek authenticity) but I have been stuck for a year now. Not to mention in New York...

So the only two friends I have made since moving to New York are an ISTJ and an ESTJ. They are both shooting down my ideas (they are called ideas for a reason! All good things start from ideas) about going in librarianship. They say there's no money, no job prospect, etc. But I don't want to go back to school simply because I am aimless. I truly want to be a librarian. I always have. I've just had to work really hard for every single opportunity that comes my way. Timing is everything. Besides, the XSTJs live with their parents! At least I have my own apartment and know how to balance the budget.

I just want more out of life. I want to feel appreciate, helpful and authentic. Why do the XSTJs only care about money and order? I don't get it. I find them to both be extremely draining XP
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  1. Digger Blue's Avatar
    Abigaleblues,
    You are INFP. That P means you are open to all kinds of opportunities, you keep your options open. J's are so busy slamming the cleaver down and moving on that they miss the fact that there is more than one way to skin a tiger. The fact that you are an Introvert means that you spend a lot more thought power on your ideas and you've probably invested a good bit in them before you shared them with others. I am an ESFP, and I go into a brainstorming session tossing out little bits and pieces of possibilities. If I get lucky, one of them gets snapped up. On the other hand, I study a lot, and can relate to things of the past, or different scenarios, and that gives me an advantage in some situations. That is probably some of how my S works, too.
    Don't get bogged down by what the SJs are doing to you. Seek out other friends, other people to bounce your ideas off of. I often wonder what my life would have been like had one other person in my family been an SP like me. Support from other people is a precious and vital part of success. Seek it out, but offer it as well. The offering of support is a very rewarding personal ministry.
    Digger Blue
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  2. Karch101's Avatar
    Sorry you're having so much trouble. It's tough when you get stuck somewhere. It would be easy for me to say "well just change your job." I know it's not that easy. Unfortunately when you're stuck in a close space with people that don't rub you the right way (especially if you're an introvert) it can be very uncomfortable. I think there's no easy answer to your problem but if you come to a point where you've had enough that's what's probably going to motivate you to make a change. Drastic changes take determination which is ussually fueled by having enough. good luck.
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