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I'm having a hard time connecting with people on any level. I can't quite put my finger on why.
I think being in a long term romantic relationship that seems to be going nowhere doesn't help. I still love my SO, and I would never cheat or hurt him, but I must admit I am bored and tired and really want to meet some new people. We are both such introverts that we can always talk each other into spending the evening at home, playing on the ipad and reading books, in our own little worlds.
I spent a month away from the forum largely because I was putting too much effort into venting, not enough into actually doing. I'm not sure why this happened. My guess is that it often seems like I don't have a lot of people in my life that I can vent to. Even though this isn't always the case, I still think that spending too much time online can be a slippery timesuck. So I decided to spend more time doing.
I decided to focus more energy into finding a better job. So far it has worked!
I don't remember what the point of joining PerC was anymore. I guess I thought it would be fun to learn about functions and how to grow. And I think I found my answer. I've spent so much time hoping that someone would let me vent a bit, commiserate, whatever you want to call it, and got sidetracked from my goal of growth. And for venting, I have real friends for that. I might be able to open up more easily with strangers, but I'd rather share myself with people that truly care.
Don't ask ENFPs for advice.
I recently asked my two troublesome friends for some space (the INTJ and the ESFP). As predicted, the latter took it fine and the former took it poorly. The only reason I really gave was that I wanted to spend more time alone, but since I learned that being more direct is better with an INTJ, I gave her specific examples of times that she said or did something to make me upset. I feel like I had to tell them, just for some sanity.
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