abigaleblues

I have friends like this that I would let hurt my feelings and I would quietly suck it up. I finally learned to steer away from topics that would spark them to feel the need to give me their unwanted judgement!! And I also now am just vocal like, "I didn't ask your opinion on that." or whatever. I just don't take it anymore. They can be so forward- so can you. And being forward is what they "hear."
For me- the friendships are still important enough to me / fulfilling enough to want to maintain them. And the icky stuff is usually far/few between. So worth it to me to just employ these strategies with them. Just try to own your space. Stand up for yourself. And steer the conversation away from things that you think they will talk negatively towards you. It has worked for me. Good luck!