Question for those you are 50 years old (and surrounding ages if you want to)

**walking tourist** · 06-01-2012 06:44 AM

Oh no. I am already in love with him!!!!

Originally Posted by Devalight

Please don't marry that guy you will meet in three years.

**Zster** · 06-10-2012 10:15 AM

I am 48, but I would say:

Collect memories and experiences. Know your values and adhere to them. Opting to do things that you like, while balancing what has to be done is a good formula (is how I lived my youth the first time around and still do).

Date more. Don't stick so long with the first/safe one. Let him go after highschool.

Savor every second with "the one"; pull him away from work now and then. Live as if time may be limited. Get more regular skin checks and have him avoid the sun more. Pick a better doctor than Dr. D. Earlier intervention might have made a difference.

Eat more and drink less before the '95 Paige and Plant concert. (:

**Krispy Kreme** · 06-28-2012 11:03 AM

Stop letting other people hold you back and guilt trip you (especially family). They never had your best interests in mind. Put yourself first for once and go to college like you want to do. You can take care of yourself, you didn't need to rely others. Don't get married so young-you know you are only doing it because you want to break away from your life. Go to school, dare to trust your instincts and feelings-you were right most of the time!

**OldManRivers** · 06-28-2012 09:17 PM

Excuse this out of age cohort post.
This is your worst nightmare - maybe.
Back 20 years ago you were 30. The world was yours to take, The future was . . what the hell.
20 years ago I was 50. Man, I thought I was as old as one can get.
I was wrong. I was as old as one should get.
Y'all enjoy those next 20 years, but they will all pass by in two weeks, subjective time.
I do not know what my classification is - born prewar, by act of Congress changed to wartime. Born the 8th of December, 1941,
2:30 AM CST. The declaration of war was postdated to the time of the attack.

**over50web** · 07-03-2012 08:17 AM

Wow, I think every poster here had something to say to my 20 year old self. I agree that I was too eager for acceptance and a relationship, and I should have realized that it will come (or not) if I worry about it or not. I should have worried less, enjoyed being young more, and been a bit more stable. :)

**yesiknowbut** · 07-03-2012 02:55 PM

Yeah, well if it's not too late, I would have said: accept yourself for what you are, and have fun.

Trouble is that I knew at the time that was the answer but I couldn't do it.

*shrug* like entpIdeas says, we all have to do the experiential thing, good and bad, to become what we are.

I'm 48 now, but I say to my 50 year old self: accept yourself for what you are, and have fun. I'll try to remember it.

**Swordsman of Mana** · 07-03-2012 03:55 PM

- get out of your head. you have to face and interact with the real world in order to get what you want
- stop procrastinating!
- stop thinking you have to isolate yourself to accomplish your goals. swallow your pride and ask for help for a change!
- get a clear plan of action
- okay, we know you have steps 50-100 figured out, now figure out steps 1-10
the best part is...I am 20. I have plenty of time to change

**over50web** · 07-03-2012 04:29 PM

Yeah, now I'm past 50, and hoping I don't look back in regret when I'm 70.

**over50web** · 07-03-2012 04:30 PM

Honestly, one thing I will say to you, instead of my 20 year old self, is ...

It may not be so much about changing as accepting who you are.

Originally Posted by Swordsman of Mana

- get out of your head. you have to face and interact with the real world in order to get what you want
- stop procrastinating!
- stop thinking you have to isolate yourself to accomplish your goals. swallow your pride and ask for help for a change!
- get a clear plan of action
- okay, we know you have steps 50-100 figured out, now figure out steps 1-10
the best part is...I am 20. I have plenty of time to change

**Aqualung** · 07-03-2012 08:59 PM

I'd say, know yourself & know what your needs are. The first helps your self-esteem & the second keeps you grounded & eventually out of the therapist's office when you're older. Don't let society define who you are or where you are on the social hierarchy. You determine who you are & the social hierarchy is irrelevant. Sometimes that means not comforming; never sell out. Also, 1 good friend trumps 50 acquaintances. Travel, see how others live & think. It's a mind opener for anyone who grew up in one small town. (me)