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    Self-Awareness Tips and Bringing Out the Best in Types 2, 4, 5, 6, and 8

    I found another good resource for self-development and the development of others through enneagram. Unfortunately, I only found access to the Google Book, so this article doesn't cover every type. However, these descriptions are still interesting and applicable to many people, even if one of these is not your main type. Enjoy!

    TWOS
    Triggers to becoming self-aware of your blind spots
    • Listen to yourself when you are paying others too many compliments. Could you possibly be asking for the favor to be returned?
    • Be clear about how you make requests to others. You also need help at times, and hinting will not always get others to understand what you are really asking for.
    • When you find yourself thinking too much about how others see you, remember that it is probably your own preoccupation and not even an issue for them.
    • You enjoy doing favors for others. Learn to say no if these requests are invading your life choices or making you feel resentful in some way.
    • Let go of past hurts as carrying them around becomes a heavy burden which robs you of loving energy which you could be giving on more deserving people in your life.

    How we can bring out the best in Type Twos
    • Type Twos actually love to be given sincere positive feedback on their accomplishments or appearance.
    • They thrive on attention and will appreciate an invitation to hang out doing something which grabs their field of interest.
    • When they share their feelings, do not rush in with advice. They may just want a sympathetic ear.
    • Type Twos also struggle with perceived criticism as they are inclined to take things personally. Find a way to give them feedback which is gentle and diplomatic.
    • Type Twos love to give presents and do things for others – however, be mindful that there might well be an expectation for you to reciprocate.

    FOURS
    Triggers to becoming self-aware of your blind spots
    • You can be your own worst enemy when you believe that the world is against you. Find something physical to do, and list your talents and what you appreciate to help you snap out of the gloom of a mood.
    • You may not necessarily be an artist, but in some way you have a creative talent. Explore what this is and spend time in an occupation where you can truly find expression.
    • When you feel hurt by other people, remember that your emotions are finely tuned, so halve the meaning you got from the other to get perspective.
    • Be aware of envying what others have – the ‘unfairness’ might just be in your imagination and having what others have might not even be in your own best interests.
    • Catch yourself when you are dwelling in the past rather than being in the moment and appreciating your current opportunities.

    How we can bring out the best in Type Fours
    • When Type Fours are moody or depressed, do not suggest that they ‘snap out of it’. Rather just listen to them, only give gentle advice when they ask for it and accept that this is often how they will experience life.
    • Appreciate their creativity and be careful about being critical as they will take this very personally.
    • Type Fours are gifted listeners and do not mind giving advice if you are faced with problems. Appreciate this quality they offer their friends.
    • Do not feel hurt when they do not appreciate a gift from you – they may have very distinctive tastes and will often change their environment to ensure that it creates a special mood.
    • They are a very emotional type so be aware, especially if you are more unemotional, that their reactions will often be heightened by the intensity of their feelings.

    FIVES
    How we can bring out the best in Type Fives
    • Lighten up – Type Fives have a quirky sense of humor and will delight you with their sense of the ridiculous.
    • Do not be overdependent on a Type Five – they can be kind and helpful but will run a mile if they think someone is trying to emotionally manipulate a situation.

    SIXES
    Triggers to becoming self-aware of your blind spots
    • When you feel anxious about things, think back on how you have in the past worried needlessly about calamities which never materialized.
    • Learn to trust your own judgment. Having a wise sounding board is great, but you do not need to get advice from others every time you make a decision.
    • When you feel stressed by life situations, be careful of projecting your negative thoughts onto others. You might regret mean utterances which were not fair or deserved by another.
    • You take your commitments in life very seriously. Sometimes you can be unnecessarily harsh on yourself. Take time out to enjoy life and graciously accept time out when it is offered to you.
    • Be aware of sabotaging your own success because you might be doubting yourself. Stand back and be objective about your accomplishments and gifts in life.

    How we can bring out the best in Type Sixes
    • Appreciate their loyalty and do not give them cause to distrust you by being unreliable or insincere.
    • When they are being ‘testy’, support them with genuine reassurance to ease their anxiety rather than trying to win the argument.
    • Do not be offended when they do not act on your advice after they have asked for it. They will probably have sought advice from various sources and might in the end decide on a completely different plan of action.
    • Humor will help them to lighten up and they can often see the ridiculous things in lie. Enjoy a good chuckle with them or invite them for a fun activity.
    • When they stress over what might go wrong, rather appreciate their ability to foresee life’s potential mishaps in having thought of ‘plan B’.

    EIGHTS
    Triggers to becoming self-aware of your blind spots
    • Recognize that you are more intense and robust than most other people. Tone down ‘your volume’ so that you do not intimidate others.
    • When you feel the warmth of anger rise in your belly area, focus on your breathing to prevent yourself from having an outburst which you may later regret.
    • You need not be responsible for everyone. Empower others by encouraging them to learn to take care of themselves.
    • People are not always intent on tripping you up. When you start seeing ‘enemies’, rein yourself back and consider that you may be creating the ‘spooks’ in your own mind.
    • It is okay to show your vulnerable side to others. When you are sufficiently relaxed to do this people will open up to you and you will gain their trust.

    How we can bring out the best in Type Eights
    • Because Type Eights are tough, they enjoy being challenged with truth and conviction.
    • Underneath the tough exterior they have a marshmallow heart. Appeal to their soft side by giving them positive feedback.
    • Resist speaking about Type Eights behind their back. They can take robust feedback but their anger will be aroused if they believe that others have been disloyal to them.
    • Don’t take things too personally when they do their straight-talking. If you need to confront them, do so when they are relaxed and preferably alone.


    Source: Kingma, Lee. What's Your Tribe?: An Enneagram Guide to Human Types at Work and Play. Claremont, South Africa: Double Storey, 2010.
    Last edited by MBTI Enthusiast; 11-04-2012 at 02:57 PM.
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    Thax a lot! It made me smile a li'll but in the end, all very true. ;)
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    @MBTI Enthusiast

    You missed the "becoming self-aware" bit for the type 5s.
    And I'm not in the mood to make a "LOL TYPE 5s ARE ROBOTS AND DA LAST THING WE NEED IS 4 DEM 2 B SELF AWARES" joke.


    Anyway, thanks for your work, Enthusiast.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MissJordan View Post
    @MBTI Enthusiast

    You missed the "becoming self-aware" bit for the type 5s.
    And I'm not in the mood to make a "LOL TYPE 5s ARE ROBOTS AND DA LAST THING WE NEED IS 4 DEM 2 B SELF AWARES" joke.


    Anyway, thanks for your work, Enthusiast.
    I know. If only I had enough money to buy every enneagram book in existence and didn't have to rely upon incomplete google books for my enneagram needs. Don't worry, next time I'll give you 5s something more to read.
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    What is the name and author of this book?

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    Quote Originally Posted by stephiphi View Post
    What is the name and author of this book?
    Quote Originally Posted by MBTI Enthusiast View Post
    Source: Kingma, Lee. What's Your Tribe?: An Enneagram Guide to Human Types at Work and Play. Claremont, South Africa: Double Storey, 2010.
    I always list my sources.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MBTI Enthusiast View Post
    I always list my sources.
    Herpderp. My b.
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    Can we get some for the Type 3 and 7 please please pretty please?
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    Quote Originally Posted by SharkT00th View Post
    Can we get some for the Type 3 and 7 please please pretty please?
    You asked so nicely, but I can't until Google lets me.

    You can check out my other similar threads though:

    How to Get Along with Other Enneagram Types
    How to Help Other Enneagram Types Grow
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    These are SO HELPFUL! Thank you very much :D
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