One of the first things one thinks about when they first learn their type is, “Which types am I compatible with?” First, I want to emphasize: any two types can connect and have a successful marriage. Do NOT use this information to prematurely judge and reject others purely because they are not your “type.” That being said, there are a few sources I have found which give information on which types typically end up married, as provided below:
Among 375 married couples whose Indicators were obtained in the 1940s, the most frequent situation was for the couple to be alike on three of their four preferences rather than on only two, as would be expected by chance.The most frequent similarity was on SN, which suggests that seeing things the same way, whether by sensing or by intuition, does more to make a man and woman understandable to each other than a shared preference on EI or TF or JP.
The percent distribution of the couples was as follows:
Alike on all preferences 9
Alike on three 35
Alike on two 33
Alike on one 19
Alike on none 4Among the couples who were alike on all preferences, most were feeling types and may have had harmony as a conscious goal in choosing a spouse. Among the couples who were different on all preferences, nearly all the husbands were thinkers.53 percent of the extravert husbands (but only 39 percent of the introverts) had at least three preferences in common with their wives.The men who apparently cared most about likeness on EI were the FJ types with extraverted feeling. . . . In the study conducted in the 1940s, where the husband was FJ, he and his wife were alike on EI in 65 percent of the cases, compared with 51 percent for all other types combined.The men most inclined to marry their opposites on EI were the introverts with thinking.Where the man was an extravert, 62 percent of the couples were alike on TF; where he was an introvert, 49 percent were alike. Where husband and wife were both extraverts, the similarity on TF rose to 66 percent.Likeness on JP seems to matter mainly to three extravert types: 65 percent of the ENTP and ENFP husbands . . . married perceptive wives; 93 percent of the ESTJ husbands . . . married judging wives. Of the rest of the couples, only 52 percent were alike on JP.To keep in mind:Likeness on SN is important to all types. The highest rate of likeness, 71 percent, occurred in couples where the wife preferred thinking to feeling.
Source: Myers, Isabel Briggs., and Peter B. Myers. Gifts Differing: Understanding Personality Type. Mountain View, CA: Davies-Black Pub., 1995. Print.Even with only a single preference in common, a marriage can be wonderfully good . . . if the man and woman take the necessary pains to understand, appreciate, and respect each other. They will not regard differences between them as signs of inferiority, but as interesting variations in human nature, which enrich their lives. As one young ISTJ husband said of his ENFP wife, “If she were just like me, it wouldn’t be any fun!”
I have found this research (Enneagram Marriage Demographics) quite accurate when demonstrating which enneagram types tend to fall for each other. ” Some combinations are strikingly more common than chance, and are highlighted in yellow or red (1 or 2 standard deviations above chance). Some combinations are much rarer than expected by chance, and these are shaded in gray.” This article accounts for the likelihood of each type in the general population, as well.
I hope this article quells some of your immediate questions about type and marriage. Best of luck in your soulmate hunting!