My Life Sucks..

My Life sucks because I can never find a job here which i like neither a relationship because this country sucks.Traveling to another city or another country is a very hard task for me eventhough as iam better now from anxiety.I grew up this way.I need someone to help me and the another thing is iam not fluent in speaking English.But there are some indian guys who are not fluent in speaking English and yet they are in countries like US,Canada,London,…so on.Somehow they manage, i cant do that. Iam not comfortable in attending some interview and travelling alone to some country though an agent.I can go to any country if i know a person from there bcoz that person will come to airport for me, it will be comfortable. Then being there, day by day the experience automatically increases.There should be someone to help me in this.Before i die,before something happens to the world or only humans..i should do this thing.

Now, I will sound really cold and blunt, because I'm INTJ. At least I warn people. Others don't do that .

First I thought that this is place where people seek advice. You don't seem to seek advice. Well maybe you are doing it in the passive way, but I didn't see a question here.

Second it shows that you're not that good in English. I'm not good too, but at least I try. And since I'm INTJ I can tell you that a lot of people won't even bother reading the post if there are a lot of mistakes - it makes it difficult to read. Try use some spell checker, it helps.

You say that your life sucks, but it sounds that you suck. So maybe you should improve yourself and this way your life will be better.

You can't find a job? Ask yourself why? What do you lack? Find what it is and work in that direction.

You can't do interviews? I won't ask you why, because I know the answer. First you know that you're not good, nor skilled enough and you show that. If you want to be employed, you have to be self-confident that you can do the job. You have to be trained and qualified so that you can be self-confident. People will see you the way you represent yourself.

I guess you want someone to tell you that everything will be OK and better. And it will be, but you have to know that you should give something so that you can receive something. So you need to work on yourself and then it will be better.

You are right.This is not anything seeking advice.I should have posted this in another section....my mistake.Eventhough after reading your reply, i understood that there is no need for this topic to be in any section.

@sameer6 it's fine to post this here, but I agree with @secretk that it sounds more like you're venting than anything else.

Unless you have a friend/close relative and a job lined up, I'd advise you against moving to another country unless you think you're really cut out to handle it. City, maybe, but not country.

Things to consider:
What financial support do you have?
Are you in a profession (e.g. IT or management) that will guarantee you a job?
Do you have the money to move and sustain yourself?
Are you willing to put in good hard work to pursue your dream?
Are you actually dedicated to this, or are you just fantasizing about moving away?

I don't know your situation, but just because you move countries doesn't mean you'll magically get a job. In fact (sorry to be so blunt) your lack of English may count more against you in an English-speaking country; at least in India there's Hindi/regional languages to fall back on. Not to mention the idiots who see a desi name & think, "Oh, another Indian, why bother?"

Please note that I'm not an economist or anything. All I'm trying to say is, don't make hasty decisions.
Again, I'm not sure of your circumstances, but try to study a bit in India first, make sure you have some work experience, etc. before packing your bags in a rush.

Idk what the system's like in India, but you could do an English course or enrol in a practical course for IT or management - like a Diploma or a Certificate IV.

You can post whatever you like, the point was that there was no question.

Also you have to know that self-confident means to read my post and tell me to mind my own business.

@caramel_choctop is right - indeed enroll in some course that interests you, that can give you some knowledge and insurance and then try again.

If you have interests in IT management, you should know that currently a lot of companies outsource in India, so there are a lot of possibilities, if you have the qualification.

Come on man you can do better than that, You got to learn how to present yourself and your case.
My advice is to improve your skills both technical and mental.
Technical by learning and improving your work capacities (computer, reporting, management…)
Mental by motivation and self improvement (language, interpersonal skills…)
To change your country is not an easy task to do, I intend to immigrate to CANADA in the next years and I can tell you, it’s very hard. If you managed to go to any industrial country you’re on your own, believe it.

And if your life sucks try to be an INTJ in third world country

What kind of work do you want to do?

Originally Posted by caramel_choctop

@sameer6
Are you in a profession (e.g. IT or management) that will guarantee you a job?
Do you have the money to move and sustain yourself?
your lack of English may count more against you in an English-speaking country;

Iam not in any profession.They can get loan if i want to go.Many people does this.I heard of guys whose english is worse than me who lives in English-speaking country

Originally Posted by thetruehell

Come on man you can do better than that, You got to learn how to present yourself and your case.
My advice is to improve your skills both technical and mental.
To change your country is not an easy task to do

My skills are ok man.A online friend of mine told once that i will get more support if i move to another country (Example : Australia ).But the problem is moving.Especially to travel for studying ,there should be a travel buddy.If my sister can come with me,it would be great.But she can't as she has small kids.Eventhough it will take more money for both of us to go.But can try if she is interested to come.Actually it will be good for her to travel for this as well because she didn't studied college and that is because of my dad.He cheated her.She is intelligent than me.I didn't studied college as well.I was there, but i discontinued.That is because my dad forced me to take Electrical which i don't like.But i had anxiety those days as well.While i wasted days in home,people of my age are studying/working.But i can't blame myself for that because i had severe anxiety those days.If i never had anxiety,then the story would be different.Anyway,past is past.So i don't have any degree.I always had interest in things like drawing,graphics.I heard that there are art schools in some foreign countries which doesn't even exist in India.Also in most foreign countries,you can study college no matter you are old which is not the same case in India.That is a big advantage.I agree changing country is not easy task,but i have seen guys who have very less skills doing it through someone's help.

Originally Posted by caramel_choctop

@sameer6 it's fine to post this here, but I agree with @secretk that it sounds more like you're venting than anything else.

Unless you have a friend/close relative and a job lined up, I'd advise you against moving to another country unless you think you're really cut out to handle it. City, maybe, but not country.

Things to consider:
What financial support do you have?
Are you in a profession (e.g. IT or management) that will guarantee you a job?
Do you have the money to move and sustain yourself?
Are you willing to put in good hard work to pursue your dream?
Are you actually dedicated to this, or are you just fantasizing about moving away?

I don't know your situation, but just because you move countries doesn't mean you'll magically get a job. In fact (sorry to be so blunt) your lack of English may count more against you in an English-speaking country; at least in India there's Hindi/regional languages to fall back on. Not to mention the idiots who see a desi name & think, "Oh, another Indian, why bother?"

Please note that I'm not an economist or anything. All I'm trying to say is, don't make hasty decisions.
Again, I'm not sure of your circumstances, but try to study a bit in India first, make sure you have some work experience, etc. before packing your bags in a rush.

Idk what the system's like in India, but you could do an English course or enrol in a practical course for IT or management - like a Diploma or a Certificate IV.

I have no idea where you're from, but where I'm from (California, United States) there's TONS of people who don't speak any English at all and they do just fine. :)

There's actually quite a bit of people from India in the city I live in. If he chose to move some place like here he'd probably fit right in.