Social Retardation Advice Center Thread, Social Retardation in The Cafe Lounge; Is there a cure? Particularly for INTJs?...  | | 
12-19-2008, 07:20 PM
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Gender:  Post Count: 39 Join Date: Oct 2008 Posting Rank: Newbie Tab 4 Content:Block A Tab 4 Content:Block B Tab 4 Content:Block C |  Social Retardation
Is there a cure? Particularly for INTJs? | 
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12-19-2008, 07:51 PM
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No it is terminal, hopefully it won't be as affective in middle age. 
There is a treatment, it alleviates the harsher symptoms of SR (Social Retardation), it is called alcohol.
[note: this message is farce and should not be taken as advice] | |
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12-19-2008, 08:05 PM
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12-19-2008, 08:35 PM
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Even though Neph said his message should not be taken as advice, the alcohol part is somewhat true. After I get a couple of drinks in me (especially some delicious hot sake) my ESTJ brother says, "I like you better when you drink." rofl.
It can be a debilitating, degenerative disease if you do not actively fight against it.
The first rule is: Do not be someone who is not yourself i.e. be yourself i.e. do not lie to yourself or others.
I can't offer more advice without putting words in your mouth. But these were some good starting positions for me:
1. Realize your own self worth, and value yourself.
2. Do not let your identity become susceptible to destruction--or influence that goes against your values.
3. Observe others to see the patterns and rituals of social interaction, and use your observations as tools.
It's ok to allow yourself to put you "out there." | |
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12-19-2008, 09:57 PM
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Strangely, I envision my older self with a flask of Jack Daniels at hand. O_o
I am not really concerned about appearances, so much as being left out or romantically deprived. It's odd how I care and don't care at the same time. | |
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12-19-2008, 11:16 PM
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Hmm, I'd say just work at it. That's what i've done. Now,if I choose to, or need to be, I can be a social person for at least 6 hours or more, alchohol or no. It's the main reason I've had three girlfriends so far. While they have not lasted too long, I've found that a lot of people I talk to, I've had more GF then they have had before my age. Except the players, but that's another story for another time. to me, it's just a skill. You just have to work at it to make it work for you. If that makes sense. | |
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12-20-2008, 10:23 AM
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I say smile a lot, initiate conversations if no one is conversing, and once you get to know the person get their number so you will have a network of friends. I find it that the better you know the person you are talking to, the more you will be comfortable with your surroundings, making you more of an extrovert. | |
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01-25-2009, 12:15 AM
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Originally Posted by Lance  I find it that the better you know the person you are talking to, the more you will be comfortable with your surroundings, making you more of an extrovert. | QFT - Quoted for truth!
You can choose to make your extraversion situational! If you're not comfortable with huge groups of people sitting around in a circle talking and bantering over a couple of drinks, you can always place more emphasis on one-on-one, or three-person conversations which can possibly allow you to be yourself. When you gather enough confidence, or feel comfortable with that level of social interaction and yearn for something more adventurous, then proceed!  | 
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01-25-2009, 01:29 AM
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You cannot be MADE an extrovert. You can however become comfortable with strangers.
Hang out with a few ENTPs, and go out with them when they go to the pub. | |
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01-25-2009, 01:30 AM
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depends on my mood and the person with who I am talking too. If they are interesting I will be interested.. | |
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