I never get people asking to touch my hair, but sometimes they want to touch my clothes and/or jewellery. I often wear quite bold things and it gets people’s attention. I figure that they like what I’m wearing, and we can get into a conversation. I let them touch, and sometimes I’ll let them try on my rings if we’re getting along. But if I find them creepy I keep them at bay.
I am uncomfortable if someone forces themselves into my personal bubble. They really should ask before reaching out and touching, or we should be in a conversation where it makes sense. But it does depends on who it is. For example, I have a red, textured coat that my ENTP friend always comments on and touches when he first sees me. He’s one of my best friends and I am comfortable with him so I don’t mind at all.
But last time I wore the coat around him, he was with a new girlfriend who I’d only met once before. I gave him a hug hello, and then he touched my coat. I hadn’t said hello to his girlfriend yet, but she reached over and touched my coat when he did. I found that too forward for my liking. I didn’t want to seem rude, so I stopped myself from taking a step away from her, and forced myself to start a conversation. This all happened in a matter of seconds, and then everything was okay again.