Dude don't pet me

**decided** · 10-13-2009 01:45 PM

I never get people asking to touch my hair, but sometimes they want to touch my clothes and/or jewellery. I often wear quite bold things and it gets people’s attention. I figure that they like what I’m wearing, and we can get into a conversation. I let them touch, and sometimes I’ll let them try on my rings if we’re getting along. But if I find them creepy I keep them at bay.

I am uncomfortable if someone forces themselves into my personal bubble. They really should ask before reaching out and touching, or we should be in a conversation where it makes sense. But it does depends on who it is. For example, I have a red, textured coat that my ENTP friend always comments on and touches when he first sees me. He’s one of my best friends and I am comfortable with him so I don’t mind at all.

But last time I wore the coat around him, he was with a new girlfriend who I’d only met once before. I gave him a hug hello, and then he touched my coat. I hadn’t said hello to his girlfriend yet, but she reached over and touched my coat when he did. I found that too forward for my liking. I didn’t want to seem rude, so I stopped myself from taking a step away from her, and forced myself to start a conversation. This all happened in a matter of seconds, and then everything was okay again.

**Spooky** · 10-13-2009 01:46 PM

You should go to a cuddle party.

**BehindSmile** · 10-13-2009 01:48 PM

oooh! Cuddle party. Cuddling is nice.

**decided** · 10-13-2009 02:28 PM

Cuddles with near strangers, with no conversational foreplay?

BTW, I don't know what it is about your avatar Halloween, but I absolutely love it.

**Spooky** · 10-13-2009 02:34 PM

Originally Posted by decided

Cuddles with near strangers, with no conversational foreplay?

BTW, I don't know what it is about your avatar Halloween, but I absolutely love it.

Why thank you!

{cuddle}

**Selden** · 10-13-2009 03:53 PM

When my hair was much higher, people used to pat it to see how poofy it was. It did get annoying but whatever. I'd rather have people annoy me due to my hair than being annoyed due to lack of it.

**TurranMC** · 10-13-2009 09:05 PM

I absolutely love to run my fingers through a girl's hair. Don't know why I just do. I rarely ever ask to do it, but if I hypothetically had long hair I wouldn't consider it rude of someone to ask me if they could touch my hair. If you don't want them to touch your hair you don't have to say yes. Just say politely you don't really like it when people touch your hair.

**Selene** · 10-14-2009 12:23 AM

Originally Posted by snail

I wish people felt the urge to pet me. I'm so touch-starved that I feel disconnected most of the time and would like sensory affirmation that other people probably do exist outside of my mind and that they notice my existence as well.
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We should have a cuddle party when you reach 6,500 posts.