He's an ENTJ with lots of T & J. He has no F as far as I can tell.
I'm an INFP & very big on the F, also very sensitive & generally low on self-esteem.
This is not good & is not working for me bigtime.
Been together 5+ years. Shoulda got out long ago but loyalty kicks in & all.
We live together, share some belongings & such. Not married & no kids involved.
We work together in the same office - he's my superior (I know, bad move).
Have kept this relationship quiet all this time as I have never quite felt the trust and connection with him to really bring it out in the open.
I'm feeling more & more stressed out, unhappy & unwell from how much I've been pushing myself to try to make him happy. I don't sleep, can't relax, I feel dead in the water & I can't do this anymore.
I'm so over the constant criticism, personal attacks & nagging about something I haven't done yet, or haven't done to his satisfaction and continually badgers me about doing more & more stuff.
As an INFP I feel strongly about a relationship being with the one person for life. If I leave him I plan to stay single. I will also have to leave my job - I doubt he would want me around anymore at that point.
This I can handle.
How do I break this thing off? Do I say this isn't working for me & get up & go?
Some perspectives from you ENTJs & whoever else, anything would be great.