I just got into a huge fight with my boyfriend about how insecure I can be when it comes to him and our relationship. I have a hard time getting over things that happen in the past. I try to logically walk myself through what happened, why it happened, why things are different now. No matter how logical it is, I can't get over how badly I feel sometimes. The fight ended with him pleading with me to tell him what he could do to make me feel better... and I couldn't even make a suggestion. I told him that I have no idea what will make me feel better, because I don't understand how my emotions work or where they come from. They just pop up and I don't know how to deal with them.
Does anyone have any advice on how to get in touch with where your emotions are coming from? How do I accept them in spite of how irrational they seem, and how do I deal with them???