I'm having this problem with my father, who seems to have gone off and decided to be angry today. He and my mother were preparing to purchase a new vehicle since the lease on my mothers is up and my fathers is breaking down. During this time, my father asks my mother to head up to the post office and purchase some stamps , she accepts and goes. This is where the problem starts.
After about five minutes, my father calls my mother, asking her where she is. My mother (on speaker phone) states that she'll be there in about ten minutes, having taken a side trip to Meijers after being asked to babysit my niece. My father, in a playful tone states that " thats not fair" and hangs up the phone. What he means by "thats not fair" is unclear to my mother and I at this point. My mother gets home and ended up having to purchase the wrong stamps due to the post office not having any of the right kind, and my father flies off the handle. He starts berating her, yelling at her that she "has no clue about life" and "how he has to do everything" and how generally useless he believes she is. He then starts hounding her like a drill sargent, telling her what to do, giving her minimal information, just so he can watch her squirm and crack under the pressure. Later, after me and my mom have returned home after some outside business, he still is treating my mother like garbage, giving her the silent treatment and shutting her down when she tries to ask whats wrong and what she can do to help.
This is not the first time he's done something like this. He's been on and off like this since he's retired, and its been a vicious cycle ever since. I'm sick of my mother being another punching bag in Dadsland, where everything he says is the written word of God, and any opposition must be utterly destroyed or manipulated until it fits his pre-existing mold. He's done this very thing to me as well, and quite frankly me and my mother are fed up with it.
We've though about sitting him down and discussing whats been going on, but we're afraid of everything falling on deaf ears.
Advice on what to do?
Just to give some personality info to see if its any help: my father is an ISTJ and my mother is an ISFP.