Hello. I have figured out that I have always befriended people that were not suitable for me, far from my perfect friend ideal in fact. In addition to that I have found that I actually don't remember them fondly, I remember cool acquaintances from the same time with more fondness instead.
In fact I just used Photoshop to remove everyone (including my ex friends) except myself, our female teacher, and a dude that I found cool from my high school class photo. He was everything I need and want in a friend - a clown-like personality, an easy-going guy. Turns out I really liked him better than my friends from the same class. Even frther back, in middle school, I had two friends, but instead of them I remember two other classmates more fondly and I wish they were my friends instead of the ones I had. They were also clown-like, and one of them was like Scooby Doo/Shaggy/Pinky from Pinky and the Brain, an easy-going, usually optimistic clown, a bit zany in fact.
Now that you know what kind my perfect friend is, let me tell you about the friend types I had:
- Debbie downers
- A nerd that made me nerdier than him
- One guy that behaved like the boss of the pack
- Outsiders that use me as a stepping stone to popularity
Why I talk to such people you might ask? Because I feel like wanting to help them get out of depression, but they always turn me into a worse version of themselves. Once they have thrown all their negativity on me, they dump me and start communication with more popular people.
Have you ever had similar experiences? Do you think there's a way to attract the type of people I like? It seems that they get repelled by my association with my 'friends'. Seems like I always attract the wrong people as friends. No wonder I remember some acquaintances with more fondness than my ex friends. Any tips on how should I attract people I actually would like beside me and avoid the vicious ones?