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    Dealing with people that over talk others

    I know you have experienced them or may even be one. You know those people that cut into the middle of your sentence and take over the conversation over and over again. And they leave you with little of no speaking room. I am looking for two kinds of information: (1) How do you deal with these kind of people? (2) If you are one of these people help me understand why you override conversations? What do you get out of it that could not be achieved by taking turns speaking?
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    Some people just seem to go on... and on and on.... and on and on and on.... you get the picture.

    Quote Originally Posted by InvisibleJim View Post
    I interrupt people because they feel the need to repeat themselves in a different way and then believe they are bringing a new factoid to the discussion via the medium of rebranding.
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    Quote Originally Posted by InvisibleJim View Post
    Some people just seem to go on... and on and on.... and on and on and on.... you get the picture.

    Yep and I just want to stick a sock in their mouth to shut them up. But can't do that at work.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Hurting View Post
    Yep and I just want to stick a sock in their mouth to shut them up. But can't do that at work.
    Have you considered headphones at work; that's what I do. Unfortunately I still get interrupted by people who confuse my 'I'm wearing head phones, piss off' as the message 'I'm bored so I'm wearing headphones. Ask me about your work problem/social life/shoe fetish post haste!'

    Post Edit: You should be wary, Te users like ourselves do get offended when someone doesn't give us the chance to vocalise our thoughts in full; however we sometimes override others without thinking because we feel the need to get them out before they fizzle away. So be careful and look back at instances when you have acted in this way before even though you detest it; I know I have.
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    If they are overbearing and annoying and won't shut up, I'll just ignore them and pretend to be listening. Usually they are so enraptured with themselves that they seldom seem to notice my mind is far away somewhere.
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    Quote Originally Posted by InvisibleJim View Post
    Have you considered headphones at work; that's what I do. Unfortunately I still get interrupted by people who confuse my 'I'm wearing head phones, piss off' as the message 'I'm bored so I'm wearing headphones. Ask me about your work problem/social life/shoe fetish post haste!'

    Post Edit: You should be wary, Te users like ourselves do get offended when someone doesn't give us the chance to vocalise our thoughts in full; however we sometimes override others without thinking because we feel the need to get them out before they fizzle away. So be careful and look back at instances when you have acted in this way before even though you detest it; I know I have.
    When people do that to me I usually think very little of them after that. I tend to think they are not very intelligent and have irrational fears they are attempting to cover. I think we all do this to a small degree at some point or other. But I am talking about the kind of person that does this in every conversation. Or rather I say session of them forcing their words on me.


    Quote Originally Posted by Chilln View Post
    If they are overbearing and annoying and won't shut up, I'll just ignore them and pretend to be listening. Usually they are so enraptured with themselves that they seldom seem to notice my mind is far away somewhere.
    Yes, I do the same thing a lot. And I imagine the person becoming as tiny as a bug and me squashing them to shut them up. They are so stupid that they never notice I have tuned out.

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    I am married to an istj and between him and his family, they like to interrupt. I try 3 times to finish and do the 3 srtikes and you're out. I just stop talking altogether. If they really wanted to hear what I was saying, they would have been more considerate. Please don't be offended. I don't mean all istjs. Just from my experience. Oh, I being an infp, I process and talk a bit slower than they do...so I guess we have to find a middle ground somewhere.
    Quote Originally Posted by Hurting View Post
    I know you have experienced them or may even be one. You know those people that cut into the middle of your sentence and take over the conversation over and over again. And they leave you with little of no speaking room. I am looking for two kinds of information: (1) How do you deal with these kind of people? (2) If you are one of these people help me understand why you override conversations? What do you get out of it that could not be achieved by taking turns speaking?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Irisheyes View Post
    I am married to an istj and between him and his family, they like to interrupt. I try 3 times to finish and do the 3 srtikes and you're out. I just stop talking altogether. If they really wanted to hear what I was saying, they would have been more considerate. Please don't be offended. I don't mean all istjs. Just from my experience. Oh, I being an infp, I process and talk a bit slower than they do...so I guess we have to find a middle ground somewhere.

    How on earth do you life with those kind of people? That would drive me nuts and it would not take long before I was out of there.
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    If I'm getting talked over at work (one on one) & I have to say something I'll repeat it until I get to finish & they eventually let me because they're tired of hearing me repeat the same half sentence. It has to be very important or I won't talk at all. Sometimes after a meeting at work I'll just email everyone with my input rather than battle them for air time. I've noticed that without a decent moderator sometimes a blathering idiot hijacks the meeting & puts us all to sleep for an hour. I wonder how they breath while talking non-stop? On my cell phone my wife interrupts me all the time. Annoying!! 3 times & I hang up. It works. Sometimes I've actually said to her "I'm going to speak now & I would like to be able to complete my sentence this time. Are you ok with that?" Depending on her mood that's hit or miss.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Hurting View Post
    I know you have experienced them or may even be one. You know those people that cut into the middle of your sentence and take over the conversation over and over again. And they leave you with little of no speaking room. I am looking for two kinds of information: (1) How do you deal with these kind of people? (2) If you are one of these people help me understand why you override conversations? What do you get out of it that could not be achieved by taking turns speaking?
    I avoid them as best as I can. As the years go on, I've learned to just stop responding or giving any impression that I'm interested. Sometimes this is enough to make them go away. I still feel a little guilty because my mind is telling me everyone deserves to be listened to and respected, but if I don't feel those rights reflected back at me? I don't offer them.
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