VENTING - Being accused of something you did not do

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This is a discussion on VENTING - Being accused of something you did not do within the Advice Center forums, part of the The Cafe Lounge category; I am just wondering how people handle being accused of something you did not do. That seems be a constant ...

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    VENTING - Being accused of something you did not do

    I am just wondering how people handle being accused of something you did not do. That seems be a constant problem with me. At work (I write computer programs), my customers enter something stupid into a program and then accuses my program for not working. That pisses me off bug time. My supervisor then accuses me of not designing the program correctly and that pisses me off even more.

    Right now I am doing a big data merge from one database to the other. The users were supposed to test the new data system. And what did they do? They tested the wrong set of data so the data did not match. Then they wrote up all these "PROBLEMS" they found with the data merge that did not exist. That is essentially accusing me of not merging the data correctly. Not I really pissed off.

    If you have ever been accused of something you did not do? It feels good to vent that!



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    People hate me in real life because I handle this VERY easily. Basically if someone is mad at me for something I did not do, I don't give a shit. I seriously just don't care. I'm just like why are you mad at me? You're the one who fucked up. I'll help you fix it but don't expect me to feel bad because you screwed up. Apparently it angers other people to see I'm not bothered.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TurranMC View Post
    People hate me in real life because I handle this VERY easily. Basically if someone is mad at me for something I did not do, I don't give a shit. I seriously just don't care. I'm just like why are you mad at me? You're the one who fucked up. I'll help you fix it but don't expect me to feel bad because you screwed up. Apparently it angers other people to see I'm not bothered.

    Good way to handle the problem. You just don't let it come into you so it never bothers you. I can imagine they don't that that to you much since you put it right back on them again.

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    I've learned that if you allow them to falsely accuse you once, they're more likely to do it again until after awhile you're the first one they'll look at when anything goes wrong. So I tell them, "Prove that I screwed up. Let's go through this step by step & see what happened". Ususally that's enough, if not it gives me a chance to prove that I didn't screw up & makes them think twice next time before blaming me first. I hate it when someone else screws up & I get the blame. Got tons of that in the military. But enough about me, set 'em straight & ask them not to jump to conclusions before thinking next time.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Aqualung View Post
    I've learned that if you allow them to falsely accuse you once, they're more likely to do it again until after awhile you're the first one they'll look at when anything goes wrong. So I tell them, "Prove that I screwed up. Let's go through this step by step & see what happened". Ususally that's enough, if not it gives me a chance to prove that I didn't screw up & makes them think twice next time before blaming me first. I hate it when someone else screws up & I get the blame. Got tons of that in the military. But enough about me, set 'em straight & ask them not to jump to conclusions before thinking next time.

    That does work in most cases. I just let them know that I was not the cause of the problem. But there was this one person I wrote a program for and she went to the extent that she would log into the program as someone else and mess up the data then accuse me of doing it. She did not realize that I had log files that tracked her every movement. But still she accused me of making the changes. And that pissed me off big time.
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    A programmer is a device which converts caffeine into error messages
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    This is why I don't want a boss. I've had it happen too. I was accused of not going to certain places in time. What really happened was the person in charge at the time forgot I had to go to one place come back go to other places and drop off. It takes time. The upper boss steps in after she tells on me. So her lack of memory becomes my fault. But the whole problem with it is, no matter what, the boss still will continue to lecture you as if you are wrong. Bosses cannot afford to be wrong. They do not admit fault usually. We are supposed to tolerate their lack of knowledge of the situation and their stern lecturing even if they are absolutely wrong. It's appalling. I usually get angry, stick up for myself, tell the truth, tell the situation as it is, get even more pissed alone, dream of having a job that doesn't involve a higher up who knows less about the job than I do.

    Managers make mistakes all the time but usually blame the incompetence of their employees when in fact it's their own incompetence on the line. I've known of management to lie and lie to the higher ups in order to make themselves look good. They use their minions as scapegoats and the upper managers are too busy and usually too naive to even bother to think the other manager could be incompetent. On top of this, you have the constant onslaught of people who will stab others in the back, lie, sabotage, falsely represent in order to move on the pecking order so they can one day become the manager who scapegoats. This is the American dream, lie, cheat, steal, ramble through desks, get others fired so that you can have your new title and your shiny SUV to run others off the road with with your big house and your in ground pool.
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    Quote Originally Posted by windex View Post
    This is why I don't want a boss. I've had it happen too. I was accused of not going to certain places in time. What really happened was the person in charge at the time forgot I had to go to one place come back go to other places and drop off. It takes time. The upper boss steps in after she tells on me. So her lack of memory becomes my fault. But the whole problem with it is, no matter what, the boss still will continue to lecture you as if you are wrong. Bosses cannot afford to be wrong. They do not admit fault usually. We are supposed to tolerate their lack of knowledge of the situation and their stern lecturing even if they are absolutely wrong. It's appalling. I usually get angry, stick up for myself, tell the truth, tell the situation as it is, get even more pissed alone, dream of having a job that doesn't involve a higher up who knows less about the job than I do.

    Managers make mistakes all the time but usually blame the incompetence of their employees when in fact it's their own incompetence on the line. I've known of management to lie and lie to the higher ups in order to make themselves look good. They use their minions as scapegoats and the upper managers are too busy and usually too naive to even bother to think the other manager could be incompetent. On top of this, you have the constant onslaught of people who will stab others in the back, lie, sabotage, falsely represent in order to move on the pecking order so they can one day become the manager who scapegoats. This is the American dream, lie, cheat, steal, ramble through desks, get others fired so that you can have your new title and your shiny SUV to run others off the road with with your big house and your in ground pool.

    Thank you for seeing reality as it is. I have lived this in the field that I work in. People get upset because I am good at my job and then they lie and back stab me. Some days I just hate it!

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    I got accused of having money. The only thing that made sense to them was that it belonged to me. I told them the truth constantly, I ended up lying so they would get off my case. But that didn't work at all. My truth didn't add up to them. They gave up. I got called to a room and they said I was telling the truth. Only person was there, she said a pityful 'sorry' and ushered me off.


 

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