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    Help, i find it so hard to open up

    I'm a very private person and i don't want others to know what's happening with my life. I already stopped posting bullshit on facebook, and most of my friends are very active on Facebook like it's their life. XD and they always posts shits that's happening in their life.
    I already stopped following the crowd because being private is more important to me and i don't feel the need to tell everyone what's happening to me.
    Now some people are asking me what's happening to me. And it's such a pain in the ass actually. I don't respond to their messages.
    I just feel guilty about it because i feel like I'm a snub. XD
    Because i don't really wanna tell, like wtf. Mind your own business lol xD

    Help? Anyone? Any advice?

    Sometimes i just wanna deactivate my Facebook for good.

    Do you think it's okay?

    I'm actually living in another country right now. And i just don't give a fuck about what's happening in other people's life and i want others to feel the same about me too.

    Am i being too selfish here?
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    No, I don't think you're being selfish. I am also a very private person too. I have a Facebok account and I almost never post about my life on it - if I'm ever on it; that is.

    Can't you just post silly stuff, or your hobbies or interests? That's the only stuff I ever post about on there.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Chesire Tower View Post
    No, I don't think you're being selfish. I am also a very private person too. I have a Facebok account and I almost never post about my life on it - if I'm ever on it; that is.

    Can't you just post silly stuff, or your hobbies or interests? That's the only stuff I ever post about on there.
    Well i used to before but my "acquaintances" are getting add up in my friends list.
    My relatives, my church mates, my pastor, my boss, my officemate, and other acquaintance that i added just to keep in touch which you don't have any personal relationships with.
    It's not something anymore you'll just freely can say whatever is on your mind since I'm not anymore young xD and my boss, and pastor, and relatives are there so i have to put up a good impression by not posting at all.
    Plus my old classmates who are messaging me to lend money!
    And old classmates who tries to advertise their marketing bullshit to you.
    And my church group from former church which i only stayed for a month and I'm not yet very closed with them yet they expect me to keep up with them by sharing what's happening in my life. Oh my. XD
    And then there's also this missionary i am actually helping that demands for some very long form to fill up that's such a hassle to me. It's like I'm already giving with all my heart what's with the formality and stuff. T.T
    And my mother who is always checking me out like i hate it a lot.

    I hate every thing about it.

    That's why i deactivated it. XD It's like leave me alone xD

    Fucking online shit.
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    Quote Originally Posted by atamagasuita View Post
    Well i used to before but my "acquaintances" are getting add up in my friends list.
    My relatives, my church mates, my pastor, my boss, my officemate, and other acquaintance that i added just to keep in touch which you don't have any personal relationships with.
    It's not something anymore you'll just freely can say whatever is on your mind since I'm not anymore young xD and my boss, and pastor, and relatives are there so i have to put up a good impression by not posting at all.
    Plus my old classmates who are messaging me to lend money!
    And old classmates who tries to advertise their marketing bullshit to you.
    And my church group from former church which i only stayed for a month and I'm not yet very closed with them yet they expect me to keep up with them by sharing what's happening in my life. Oh my. XD
    And then there's also this missionary i am actually helping that demands for some very long form to fill up that's such a hassle to me. It's like I'm already giving with all my heart what's with the formality and stuff. T.T
    And my mother who is always checking me out like i hate it a lot.

    I hate every thing about it.

    That's why i deactivated it. XD It's like leave me alone xD

    Fucking online shit.
    Yeah, if mine was that much pressure; I'd do the same.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Chesire Tower View Post
    Yeah, if mine was that much pressure; I'd do the same.
    It's like i just wanna live a very simple life and be happy

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    Nah, I don't think you're being selfish and you aren't a snub XD I got rid of Facebook because I found that it was taking up a lot of time in my life. I wasn't going on walks with the dog like I used to and everywhere I looked, I saw people scrolling on their phones. This scared me. I didn't want to be like those people. So I deleted it about 5 years ago and never bothered joining any other social media sites (unless this site counts as one..?) It felt weird at first but not long after, it felt liberating. :)
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    Quote Originally Posted by ElusiveFeather View Post
    Nah, I don't think you're being selfish and you aren't a snub XD I got rid of Facebook because I found that it was taking up a lot of time in my life. I wasn't going on walks with the dog like I used to and everywhere I looked, I saw people scrolling on their phones. This scared me. I didn't want to be like those people. So I deleted it about 5 years ago and never bothered joining any other social media sites (unless this site counts as one..?) It felt weird at first but not long after, it felt liberating. :)
    True indeed liberating as fuck :)
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    You should do whatever it is you want. If you are a private person, maybe you're not meant to have a facebook, i'm learning that the hard way to. Sometimes for not being really active on facebook, or adding anyone i really know, i feel like i'm not being normal or being too selfish. But i'm now thinking having a facebook or not doesnt define you. There's so much more to life, and you wouldnt be missing out on much since close people in your life can communicate with you in other ways. Be true to yourself, always.
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    Quote Originally Posted by zen0202 View Post
    You should do whatever it is you want. If you are a private person, maybe you're not meant to have a facebook, i'm learning that the hard way to. Sometimes for not being really active on facebook, or adding anyone i really know, i feel like i'm not being normal or being too selfish. But i'm now thinking having a facebook or not doesnt define you. There's so much more to life, and you wouldnt be missing out on much since close people in your life can communicate with you in other ways. Be true to yourself, always.
    Oh yeah that's fucking right! Thanks :)

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    I'm the same way. I do have Facebook, but It's just to talk about hobbies and basic stuff. Personal information is never shared.

    I find it the hardest to make friends though, since it seems like people want to know too much information way too quickly :(

    My advice is just keep being you. You don't have to share a lot on Facebook anyway.
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